(Closed) friend just stole other friends baby name – awkward!!!

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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3267 posts
Sugar bee

@lilarose:  honestly I think the concept of “dibbs” on a baby name ridiculous. 

It’s not like she is about to deliver, she isn’t even TTC.  You don’t get to “call” a name any more then you get to call 10 years before your wedding what your wedding date will be. 

Why can’t they both have two Cassandra’s.  I know lots of people with my name and I thought it was awesome.

Post # 4
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526 posts
Busy bee

If she wanted to use the name so bad she should have had a baby. I think it is totally fine that your other friend used it. She doesnt own the name.. Life happens. 

Post # 5
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4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

what tooo dooooo.


Nothing. You can’t break into the home, steal the kid’s birth certificate and alter it because you don’t like the name friend 2 chose. The world doesn’t work that way. Friend 1 needs to get over it. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@lilarose:  I admit, I would be slightly irritated if a good friend knew I loved a name but got to use it first.  Maybe irritated isn’t the right word – jealous, maybe?

Edit – but yeah, nothing you can do about it now!

Post # 7
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4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I feel for friend 1 because I have a slight fear every time someone I know gets pregnant, that they’ll take one of “my” baby names (I haven’t shared my favorites with many people outside the Bee!) but, really, it isn’t that big of a deal. Either they’ll both have a daughter named Cassandra or friend 1 will have to find another name when the time comes.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

While you can’t call dibbs on a name, I don’t think it’s a nice thing to do to a friend…someone you are suppossed to care about.  If it was something super common or a family name, fine.  But Cassandra is pretty unique.  There is nothing to do about it but I get where friend #1 is. coming from.  Has this second girl been a bad friend in the past?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You can’t lay claim to a baby name, but I can see why she would be upset. That being said, why not have two Cassandra’s? 

Post # 10
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7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You cannot claim a baby name, and Cassandra is a totally normal, common name. It’s not like your friend made up some unique name that this other friend stole.

PS, who wants to name their kid after a woman who watched her entire family get slaughtered and her city get destroyed to then be taken prisoner by the king of the invading army, raped repeatedly, taken back to his home, and nurdered in the shower all while knowing this would happen and being unable to do anything about it?

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hmm no you don’t steal a baby name cause you CAN’T. It just a name, there’s nothing to steal, and you cant call dibbs on a name especially when you aren’t having a baby any time soon

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Why can’t your other friend name her kid Cassandra still (IF she has a girl whenever she has kids)? My bff named her daughter Grace and I’ve always loved the name and I still plan on using the name Grace one day.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

you can’t call dibs on a name… and honestly if she loves the name that much… does it really matter that someone she knows has a girl with the same name??? I might be slightly annoyed.. but w/e. Plus there’s no guarentee that friend #1 is even going to have a girl in her future.

PS I highly doubt someone would give their child a specific name just to piss someone off… she just liked the name. So I’d take it as a compliment.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You can’t “steal” a name from someone.  Friend 1 didn’t even have a baby.  She’d never used the name.  She just liked it.  Liking doesn’t equal owning.

You want to know what to do?  Stay out of it. It doesn’t have anything to do with the rest of you.  Why some girls need to make everything into something dramatic and about themselves I’ll never know.

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had a friend who didn’t tell her baby names for that reason. And a friend who was worried about the name Charlie because she knew I liked it. I could see being upset though (me personally) if it was a family member (where it would be the same first name/last name) but is it really a deal breaker to have friends with kids with the same first name? I wouldn’t think so. If your friend still loves the name, use it!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Natinat6:  Maybe they are both fans of Wayne’s World?

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