Post # 1
My friend has had dibbs on the name Cassandra for literally years. she has always loved the name and its just always been “her” baby name. and we ALL knew it.
anyway she is not pregnant but is in a long term relationship, not TTC yet or anything though.
we found out our other good friend in the same group was having a baby – YAY!!!!! and a girl!! YAY!!!! we were soooo exctied for her and it was so awesome when the bubba arrived.
until she named her Cassandra.
and now its awkward because we are all getting in the middle of this fight – friend 1 is so upset that she has used her baby name – friend 2 is basically “well i had a baby first, sorry but im not gonna compromise on a name that i love cos you love it”
putting us in such an AWKS situation!!!! i could understand if it was quite a common name but Cassandra isnt a common name in our country!!!
what tooo dooooo. i actually feel for friend 1. you dont steal someones baby name!!! right???
Post # 3
@lilarose: honestly I think the concept of “dibbs” on a baby name ridiculous.
It’s not like she is about to deliver, she isn’t even TTC. You don’t get to “call” a name any more then you get to call 10 years before your wedding what your wedding date will be.
Why can’t they both have two Cassandra’s. I know lots of people with my name and I thought it was awesome.
Post # 4
If she wanted to use the name so bad she should have had a baby. I think it is totally fine that your other friend used it. She doesnt own the name.. Life happens.
Post # 5
what tooo dooooo.
Nothing. You can’t break into the home, steal the kid’s birth certificate and alter it because you don’t like the name friend 2 chose. The world doesn’t work that way. Friend 1 needs to get over it.
Post # 6
@lilarose: I admit, I would be slightly irritated if a good friend knew I loved a name but got to use it first. Maybe irritated isn’t the right word – jealous, maybe?
Edit – but yeah, nothing you can do about it now!
Post # 7
I feel for friend 1 because I have a slight fear every time someone I know gets pregnant, that they’ll take one of “my” baby names (I haven’t shared my favorites with many people outside the Bee!) but, really, it isn’t that big of a deal. Either they’ll both have a daughter named Cassandra or friend 1 will have to find another name when the time comes.
Post # 8
While you can’t call dibbs on a name, I don’t think it’s a nice thing to do to a friend…someone you are suppossed to care about. If it was something super common or a family name, fine. But Cassandra is pretty unique. There is nothing to do about it but I get where friend #1 is. coming from. Has this second girl been a bad friend in the past?
Post # 9
You can’t lay claim to a baby name, but I can see why she would be upset. That being said, why not have two Cassandra’s?
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You cannot claim a baby name, and Cassandra is a totally normal, common name. It’s not like your friend made up some unique name that this other friend stole.
PS, who wants to name their kid after a woman who watched her entire family get slaughtered and her city get destroyed to then be taken prisoner by the king of the invading army, raped repeatedly, taken back to his home, and nurdered in the shower all while knowing this would happen and being unable to do anything about it?
Post # 11
Hmm no you don’t steal a baby name cause you CAN’T. It just a name, there’s nothing to steal, and you cant call dibbs on a name especially when you aren’t having a baby any time soon
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Why can’t your other friend name her kid Cassandra still (IF she has a girl whenever she has kids)? My bff named her daughter Grace and I’ve always loved the name and I still plan on using the name Grace one day.
Post # 13
you can’t call dibs on a name… and honestly if she loves the name that much… does it really matter that someone she knows has a girl with the same name??? I might be slightly annoyed.. but w/e. Plus there’s no guarentee that friend #1 is even going to have a girl in her future.
PS I highly doubt someone would give their child a specific name just to piss someone off… she just liked the name. So I’d take it as a compliment.
Post # 14
You can’t “steal” a name from someone. Friend 1 didn’t even have a baby. She’d never used the name. She just liked it. Liking doesn’t equal owning.
You want to know what to do? Stay out of it. It doesn’t have anything to do with the rest of you. Why some girls need to make everything into something dramatic and about themselves I’ll never know.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa
I had a friend who didn’t tell her baby names for that reason. And a friend who was worried about the name Charlie because she knew I liked it. I could see being upset though (me personally) if it was a family member (where it would be the same first name/last name) but is it really a deal breaker to have friends with kids with the same first name? I wouldn’t think so. If your friend still loves the name, use it!
Post # 16
@Natinat6: Maybe they are both fans of Wayne’s World?