Post # 106
I think you should speak to your friend. Say something along the lines of, “I have done the research on a range of professional bakeries to determine pricing and I couldn’t help but notice that the delivery fee you quoted me is higher than the established bakeries. I would have been happy to promote your new business at our wedding, but we are unable to fit the higher delivery fee for your services into our budget. Is this a fee that can be negotiated?”
Hopefully she just didn’t realize how ridiculous her pricing was and is willing to drop or knock the delivery fee completely. You could even mention that you were a bit surprised by the price of the cake as it is the same price as established bakeries and you were anticipating a lower price as she is starting her business.
It’s a conversation worth having and you aren’t wrong to feel surprised by the pricing!
Post # 107
Guys – I never said anything about “never pay your friends for anything”. this is OP’s WEDDDING. the girl ASKED to make the cake. So I would expect, if my friend offers to do something for my wedding, i expect discount OR free. If it is commercial rates, I would make a commercial decision and say, well thanks but I will make a commercial decision based on the baker i think is best – and decide on that basis.
She gets income, experience and exposure. what do YOU get? An expensive cake on the biggest day of yor life which you may not have chosen otherwise
Post # 108
I would definitely understand the delivery fee if it were a tiered cake because as someone who made my own wedding cake and had to transport it to the venue myself, that ish is terrifying, took three people, and I had to spend a while at the venue reconstructing pieces that got bumped in transit. Perhaps the fee is to cover the containers needed to transport the cupcakes? You can’t just let everything touch, and if she doesn’t have the containers already, she may be floating her startup costs along to you. Could you ask her why the fee is what it is/what it is covering?
Post # 109
Honestly it’s silly in my eyes that SHE asked YOU to make the cake to expand her portfolio and expects any payments at all, and fine you offered to pay for cake.. she accepted (she shouldn’t have) and now is charging delivery for the venue she will already be at?..
Sorry but when you ask someone to do something for them and especially to benefit your own business then you dont charge for that.
I don’t offer to do things for my friends like help with their sisters showers or whatever and then invoice them after that’s not it works.
Post # 110
jbarben : So OP, what are you going to do? Given all the feedback here, I can’t imagine why you’d want to go with your friend. Friends are friends, business is business, don’t blur the lines.
sunnyland : “Not in South Africa, but I have lived in a third world country so I definitely have perspective.”
That was the equivalent of “oh you are from South Africa? Cool, I went to Togo once!” 🙄 Not sure how you having lived in an entirely different country makes this cake more affordable for the OP….
Post # 111
FebruaryBride026 : She’s not obligated. She is the one who asked if she can make her the cake so she can expand her own business. She was doing OP a favour.. a favour is something you do to be nice not to make money.. that’s called a business transaction.
Post # 112
Shinytoy : “she is your friend so no way should you pay her”
Well You are saying you shouldn’t ever pay friends for their business services, those are your words.
Post # 113
So this could go one of two ways.
Either she is one of those obnoxious amateurs who guilt trips friends into using her services and then charges them like she’s a seasoned pro
OP is one of those people who think doing anything for her wedding will actually help someone’s career, as witnessed on any number of obnoxious reality tv shows.
I’m leaning toward the first because OP said the friend asked to do this, but in either case the only course of action is to use a pro vendor and stop this nonsense.
Post # 114
BalletParker : I and several bees have suggested she hire a pro baker already but unless I missed something from her latest posts, she is still gonna be having her friend do her wedding cake anyway. I wouldn’t be surprised if there are future posts concerning this friend.
Post # 115
socalgirl1689 : I wouldn’t be surprised either lol. Yeah, I saw many pp suggesting that and it being ignored.
If OP doesn’t get out of this, that would cause me to me to lean toward scenario number 2.