(Closed) friend of 21 years backs out of being bridesmaid and friend 20 days before wd

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i am so sorry this has happened to you.  to lose a “friend” a few days before your wedding has got to be tough.  it definitely sounds like a one-sided friendship, though.  just know that all the people who love and support you will still be by your side when you get married to your forever best friend.

*hugs* to you!

Post # 4
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m so sorry this happened and right before your wedding. That truly is awful. ๐Ÿ™

Try to focus on the wedding as much as possible to help take your mind off what happened. Take comfort from your Fiance, other friends and family and try to get back to being excited about your wedding! You are getting married soon!! Hang in there! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
2867 posts
Sugar bee

Right now my best advice is to try not to think of her before your wedding.  You’ll have time afterwards.  I’m sorry that you went through this!  It’s good that she’s not your friend anymore, now she can’t mooch off you.

Post # 6
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am so sorry! I know it’s hard and not much can be said in a situation like this, but think of it this way. She sounds pretty selfish and by the sounds of it, you have come to realise this. She also sounds like she has never been a true friend and will take advantage of everything given the chance. This is probably an opprotunity to weed out the bad in what’s good. Yes a lot of money is lost along with a friendship, but try and focus on your big day and everything else that will come along. You never know, maybe in a few weeks she’ll turn around and realise everything that she’s done.

Post # 7
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow that is awful. Im so sorry you have had to deal with this so close to your WD. Honestly, it sounds like this women was never truly your friend, she used you BIG TIME. You’re better off without her and her negativity in your life. I have a friend like this and even though we were BFFs all through childhood and high school, she didnt make the bridal party cut and Im even questioning inviting her at all. Surround yourself that care about YOU and love YOU, not your money or what you can offer them. 

Post # 8
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry you’re going through this!

I don’t really have any good advice but at least you found out this now instead of after you wedding…because then she would be in all of your pictures!

Post # 9
1032 posts
Bumble bee

I am so sorry ๐Ÿ™ (((hugs))) Selfish people suck. You did nothing wrong. Focus on your soon-to-be-HUSBAND *YEAY* ๐Ÿ™‚ and those who love and support you all around you. Don’t let one person ruin this incredibly special time.

Post # 10
1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m sorry that you are going through this.  I wish there was more to say.  I agree with the other posters.  You have been an incredible friend, and she has just been selfish.  Just focus on this time with your Fiance, and the family and friends that you have.  You are getting married in 20 days!!!   Woo Hoo!!  Best Wishes.

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