(Closed) Friend perform ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Bumping this up because I am interested in some information as well.

Post # 4
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m curious as well.  My Fiance and I are planning on asking his cousin who lives out of state to perform our ceremony.  Any input, Bees?

Post # 5
437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We’re having a friend perform our ceremony. In the state of Vermont we just have to fill out a form online and have it signed by the town clerk within two weeks of the wedding- and it will only cost us $100.  I think it’s a lot more personal to have someone that actually knows you do the ceremony. Our guy also married our other friends last year so he is comfortable with how things should go and is a good speaker. I would make sure you ask someone that you think will do a good job too 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 6
1811 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are having a friend officiate our ceremony.  He got ordained (for free…in like 10 seconds) with Universal Life Church, which is basically a church that respects the freedom of religion and accepts everyone.  In some states it isn’t legal, but luckily I live in GA so anyone that is granted permission by any religious group to officiate a marriage can legally perform the ceremony.  We wanted a civil ceremony so this is ideal for us!  If you are interested you can check out ulc.org and check out the rules and laws by state.  Be aware that some counties also have rules that differ from the state so make sure to check with someone at the courthouse before ou proceed.  Good luck!

EDIT:  I just checked the site and it looks like it is pretty much the same in Washington as it is here.  http://www.themonastery.org/tools/wedding_laws/

Post # 7
5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Our experience will likely not apply to you – my husband’s BFF married us, but he didn’t have to get ordained. In MA, anyone can get a one day license from the state to perform a marriage.

Post # 8
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

(not married yet) My mom is going to be performing our ceremony 🙂 She has been ordained for several years – at least 19. She is ordained through a church and stays up to date on the specifics. I know in some states, they don’t accept the online ordained forms (or so a friend told me – they need someone ordained in a religion or a judge). when she originally became ordained, I don’t recall it being excessively difficult or very time consuming, it probably took under a month. She mostly has performed weddings for friends, and that turned into friends of friends. She actually did a wedding for two of my friends on very short notice at their work. Two of my friends got married and they were able to not use an officiant – they did the service themselves (FWIW, they live in Pennyslvania). 

Post # 9
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

In California, we had our friend go through the “Deputy for a Day” program, equivalent to “becoming ordained”. It was super easy, and got the job done! 🙂 Having a friend perform the ceremony? Best decision we could have ever made for our wedding.  Good luck with your planning!

Post # 11
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My fiance officiated a wedding for one of our friends. He got ordained through Universal Life Church.  It’s an online place that’s free to get ordained and didn’t take long to fill out the info.  It was really nice, he wrote the ceremony for them (they wrote their vows and picked the readings).

Post # 13
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

In Florida, a notary of republic can marry people (as long as the notary isn’t related to the bride or groom). We’re actually thinking of getting a friend to become a notary (we’d pay the fees, unless they want to count that as their gift to us!) and officating our wedding.

Post # 14
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL


heres the link ..universal life church takes like 10 seconds to do …and its free

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