- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Bees, I’ve got to get this out, and it’s long. Bear with me, offer advice if you’d like, or just sympathize with my vent.
Darling Husband has a really good friend, we’ll call her C. C and her husband knew Darling Husband a few years before I came into the picture, and now we’re all part of the same big friend group. C and I have always gotten along great, but I’ve only known her since Darling Husband and I started dating. When it came time to pick my bridesmaids, back over a year ago, I chose my bff from kindergarten, my best friend from college, and my now SIL. I had one friend from college I wanted to be a bridesmaid, but she was going to be stationed in Korea during the wedding.
Darling Husband picks his groomsmen, including C’s hubby. All is well.
WELL, over time C starts making little backhanded comments about how she’s not in the wedding party. She made a sweet speech at a bridal shower for me, but started it with, “Well, I’m not actually in the wedding party, but…” She’s also mentioned it in casual conversation with friends. My Mother-In-Law has admitted to hearing C mention it when I’m not around. Everytime I have laughed it off, ignored it, fumed behind closed doors, all in an effort to be the bigger person. Darling Husband wasn’t too happy about C’s actions, and offered to speak to her on my behalf, but I always declined. I figured if anyone should confront, it’d be me.
The night of the rehersal, C’s hubby was running late. She offered to stand in his place during the run through. I took this as her trying to force her way into my bridal party, and get attention, and I got my Maid/Matron of Honor to politely suggest she sit down, which she finally did. With that settled, I forgot about everything related to her comments and proceeded to have a fabulous night, and an even better wedding day.
So this brings us to today. I went by C’s house to pick up something, and there’s a girl I’ve never met. C introduces us and explains that myself and Darling Husband are good friends of theirs, and that Darling Husband was one of their best friends, “even though my husband was in the wedding party and I wasn’t.”
Really? After two and a half months? Really.
I’m not sure what’s motivating her. Maybe I really offended her when I didn’t pick her amongst my oldest friends and future family to stand with me. Maybe she envisions some grand argument where Darling Husband wanted her in the wedding but I threw a bridezilla fit about it (which never came close to happening. we talked about including her but came to a mutual conclusion that we were happy with who we chose).
But two and a half months is a long time to be still making snarky comments. I keep laughing it off, and my best friend tells me to keep going it. Mother-In-Law tells me to just keep laughing it off because at the end of the day C is just plain sad (as in pathetic). Me? I’m moving closer to just wanting to meet for lunch or something in private so we can hash this out calmly.
I just needed to get this out, bees. I thought this was all over February 9th, but apparently it’s not. Thanks for reading, and if you have advice, go for it.