(Closed) Friend Rant…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i had a friend like this. keyword: had

i sent her a letter back in 2005 to let her know how she has hurt me and why i was letting her go as a friend. she sent me a text message to say she understood and that she had no excuse for her behavior. it was actually quite an amicable ‘break up’… we see each other every few years or so and are friendly, but we aren’t friends anymore.


get out of it and save yourself the hurt. i spent many nights crying to the girl who, in the end, became my real best friend.

Post # 4
4822 posts
Honey bee

First, quality is wayyy more important than quantity and have a blast!

Some friends just arent good at the reaching out/going out of their way part of a relationship and when you have a baby it makes it 10x more difficult. It doesnt necessarily mean she doesnt value you for a friend.

Have you discussed with her how you feel? Its possible she thinks she does other things that make up for not coming by, or feels that you understand why she doesnt.

Friendships are two-sided and if you feel like its not, you need to talk with her calmly about it. She may not realize how you are feeling. Or maybe you have grown apart some?

I have a few friends that are like that, but at the end of the day they are still my good friends. They just treat situations differently I have a long time good friend that couldnt come to my wedding and didnt send me a card. I had to chase her down for an RSVP (I knew she wasnt coming because she lives far away and has no money). She never calls. She talks about visiting me and doesnt. I understand this is “her” and I let her know that it bothers me. She apologizes and things don’t change, but I am OK with that because when I call her we talk like the friends we are. She just falls in a different set of friends for me.

I think friends are in different categories and she may not be your best friend category any longer.

Post # 5
5887 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

sounds like she’s always been this way, and this is just the final straw.  if i were you, i would talk to her or write her a letter or something about how you feel (she may not even be aware she’s this selfish), and let the chips fall where they may.  you may lose her as a friend, but it sounds like she’s not much a friend now anyways, and your self respect will be in tact.  good luck!  keep us posted. =)

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