(Closed) Friend said I wasn't hourglass enough for a mermaid is this true?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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3225 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

futuremrscookxo:  Hm, I would agree that you are probably more rectangular, but there is nothing wrong with that shape and it was rude of her to phrase it like that. I’m sure you don’t look like a brick, lol. Typically I think hourglass shapes are similar bust and hip sizes with a waist measurement that is >9 inches difference. That said, you can still pull off a mermaid look. You can even add a belt or sash to create more of a waist if you end up wanting to. 

However, go try dresses on! Typically what you think you’ll like in pictures is not always what you end up liking on you (that said, I always said I wanted a strapless, lace dress with a sweetheart neckline and an A line silhouette and that’s exactly what I ended up with…so sometimes your initial thoughts are right). 

You can also google “Plus size mermaid wedding dress” and find lots of pictures. Good luck, I’m sure you’ll look great!

Post # 3
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268 posts
Helper bee

Wow, rude!

It’s true that your measurements don’t have a HUGE difference between your waist and bust/hips, but don’t let that stop you!  Try out some different shapewear, look into mermaids with corset backs, to help hold the shape you want, invest in a belt or sash at the waist to help accent it!  You may also be interested in looking into steel-boned corsets, which can train your waist (over time!) to be smaller in proportion with your other measurements.  It’s not as uncommon today as you’d think, and often us ladied who start out with a fairly straight profile can achieve pretty drastic reduction.

Don’t let ANYONE tell you what you can and can’t do, this is your goddamn wedding!  And anyone who would tell you you look like a brick CLEARLY doesnt have your feelings or best interests at heart (sorry bee 🙁 )  If you love a mermaid, you’ll find a way to make it work!  

DO NOT bring that person dress shopping.

Post # 4
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3035 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

All you can do is try stuff on and see how it looks. Your “friend” is rude for saying that.  Wear what you feel good in. Lots of people look great in mermaids! I did… but i found the dress so uncomfortable, i couldn’t walk!! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

i look terrible in mermaid dresses and I don’t like them. My cousin has zero curves and looks amazing in them. Don’t listen to your friend. Try some on and decide what you think 

Post # 6
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Mermaids are actually nice because they give the ‘illusion’ of being an hourglass shape. I think anyone can wear that sillhouette tbh you just have to find the right design. I bet a corset back would look great. 

Post # 7
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1980 posts
Buzzing bee

Man, sometimes it’s hard to be a woman, right?!

Not all mermaids are alike – some made me look rectangular, others emphasized my assets, and there is a 12inch difference between my bust and my waist so I’m pretty hourglass-y.

Wear a dress that you love, that makes you feel like a million bucks. It may be a mermaid, it may not. You don’t know what looks good until you try it on. There is no need for “only so-and-so” looks good in a certain style. That kind of generalization is just rude and untrue.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Don’t rule a mermaid out! I thought I wasn’t curvy enough for a fit and flare dress, but I tried one on and it looked so fantastic I wound up buying it even though I had never considered one just because I had this idea that it wouldn’t look good. You won’t know until you try one on!

Post # 9
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

It was insensitive for your friend to say something like that. There would’ve been a nicer way to say it. I don’t think that mermaid styles are only for people with extreme hourglass shapes. Like the previous poster, I agree that they enhance or give the illusion of an hourglass shape, especially if you get the ones with a corset bodice. It will cinch your waist and give you an even more dramatic hourglass shape. Good luck with dress shopping and don’t be afraid of try on styles you like! You won’t know until you try the dress on. 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

WOW that’s a pretty rude comment. I think mermaid dresses flatter sooo many body types. Definitely give them a try, and don’t take that friend along with you! <3

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

futuremrscookxo:  Totally uncool of your friend to say that — especially in that way!

There isn’t a really big difference between your hip/bust and waist measurements, so you probably don’t really read as an hourglass, but still — uncalled for. 

Bottom line is, wear what you can/will wear confidently!! 

My shape is VERY hourglass, and at the end of it all, I ended up in a ballgown! Your shape can be complimented by a specific style, but you should still choose whatever makes you feel the best!

Post # 13
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1325 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

futuremrscookxo:  My mom told me the same thing about the dress I was dreaming about: a lace trumpet. Actually, she oh-so-kindly said “lose weight or pick something else.”

I got a lace trumpet and rocked it. I felt sexy, bridal and beautiful.

Get whatever the hell you feel great in.

Post # 14
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3090 posts
Sugar bee

Well, she is quite a peach.

No, I don’t agree with her. I dont think you have to be hourglass (by the way, that’s an extremely small percentage of the population) to rock a mermaid. But, I do think that certain body types do fit certain dresses best – doesnt mean that no other body type can rock it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

futuremrscookxo: uhhh what she said to you is VERY insulting. Is she one of those people that is trying to be helpful, but regularly says the wrong thing or is she one of the people that constantly need to get in digs? I would avoid talking to her about this again if she’s just going to hurt your feelings.

Regardless of how large each measurement is, you would be considered an hourglass based on the proportions- that however, doesn’t determine what kind of dress you will think will look best on you or what you end up loving ON YOU. I would not focus too heavily on the shape until you actually get in to try dresses on. People focus too much on the shape rather than the other elements they like and those are the people that have a difficult time making a decision. All I’m saying is you should try them on and be open to everything and then narrow it down once you see them on you.

I wanted a a-line or ballgown (I am also an hourglass) and ended up with a mermaid after trying on tons of dresses and not liking how I looked in the a-lines and ballgowns. My sister in law went in looking for a fit and flare or mermaid and ended up getting a ballgown.

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