(Closed) Friend said I wasn't hourglass enough for a mermaid is this true?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think since your waist to hip ratio is a 5 inch difference maybe that’s why you look rectangular to your friend. My waist is 12 inches smaller than my hips. And my chest is 6 inches bigger than my waist…so basically I’m a pear. I think you should still try on mermaid dresses just to see if you like them. Do you think your friend was trying to be mean? My friends tell me I have a big ass and I just laugh, I don’t think they say it to be mean I think they are telling me the truth and it’s funny lol. I prefer honest friends, though,  not the kind that let you walk out the house looking a hot mess and don’t say anything to you…that’s just my preference.

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Post # 17
1565 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

That is kind of insulting, but I guess she was just trying to be helpful. I wouldn’t rule any particular style out or get your heart set on one until you try dresses on. I thought a trumpet would look awful on me (I’ve got a long torso, am pear shaped, and have a lot of lumps instead of curves) so I was surprised when I tried dresses on and saw how amazing I looked in one! Keep an open mind when you go try dresses on since they never look the way they do on the model. 

Post # 18
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I think mermaids tend to look best on women who are very slim or have a very well-defined waist. You’ll never know until you try dresses on, though.

I thought I wanted an A line, my BFF said I should try a fit and flare (LOL NO. My hips are way bigger than my bust so this would NOT be a good look for me), the consultant at my boutique kept bringing me drop waist ballgowns, and I ended up choosing a corseted sheath. The dress I saw online that I went to the boutique to try on just did not work for me at all. Like I said, you really never know!

Post # 19
429 posts
Helper bee

I say try it on and see for yourself. I initially picked some dresses that I thought would look good on me and when I tried them on I instantly wanted to take it off! Lol. You just never know until you try it on 🙂 And I probably wouldn’t bring that friend dress shopping. 

Post # 20
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Ballroom

I’m full figured and tried on both mermaid and trumpet styles, and found that the trumpet was most flattering.  Also it is much easier to walk in. I chose a trumpet style and it really accentuates my curves. 

Post # 21
6941 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Personally I think your shape would be perfect for a mermaid-style dress! Those dresses help make it look like you have more curves than usual so it would just accentuate your waist. I actually think those styles are perfect for those who want to make it look like they have an hourglass figure but don’t.

I AM an hourglass figure and I thought I looked ridiculous in the few mermaids I tried on. It made my hips look even bigger and not in a good way. 

Post # 22
4695 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think your friend was just trying to be honest.. Some people are just blunt. I appreciate honesty in my friends and wouldn’t take offense with her comment.. Based on your measurements, it does sound like your shape is rectangular so perhaps that’s what she was saying..

It is a simple fact that some body types look better in certain shapes than others.. With that being said, not all mermaid dresses are created equal and you should try some on anyways to determine whats flattering on your particular body. She’s not the authority on what looks good on your body, she was just voicing an opinion.. However misguided you think it was.


Post # 23
60 posts
Worker bee

Can I just say I’m cracking up at all of these bees taking this opportunity to proclaim their own “hourglass” measurements and how theirs is a true hourglass.

Sorry OP you’re not an hourglass, but my 36-10-36 figure totally is!! 

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Post # 24
2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Don’t listen to her! You’re  not a brick! Go try some mermaid dresses with large voluminous skirts and corset tops and I bet you’ll look fantastic!  Show us some pics when youth try things. 

Post # 25
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Beauty is SO subjective! So what if your friend thinks you’re “rectangular?” Just because someone thinks/perceives something a certain way doesn’t mean its the ultimate truth.

Also, measurements are a huge crock of s***.  You can have the same measurements as someone and a completely different looking body. 

Please don’t let your friends comment bring you down or make you feel insecure. Just brush it off…ok she thinks you’re rectangular, so what?!

You find the dress you absolutely LOVE and work it!! 

Post # 26
1449 posts
Bumble bee

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futuremrscookxo:  That was rude as hell, and also very untrue. So much of it depends on where certain dresses hit you, and what you feel comfortable and confident wearing. I looked straight up ridiculous in all the mermaid dresses I put on. Go try some on and leave that friend at home 😛

Post # 27
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook

First of all, try on every single shape and keep an open mind.  You may be surprised what you fall in love with.

I have nearly the exact same measurements as you, and like you I always thought I had a rectangle shape.  I went in NOT wanting a mermaid, fit & flare, or trumpet.  I wanted an A-line or ballgown.  Imagine my surprise when I put this dress on and knew it was the one:

Bottom line: try on everything and concentrate on what YOU love and feel best in.  Don’t let anyone tell you what you can and can’t wear.

Post # 28
9554 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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Berri:  hahahahha, this!!

Post # 29
1707 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Your friend sounds like a jerk.  

I’m also a plus sized bride and I didn’t think I’d look good in ANY shape dress.  My body shape isn’t hourglass or rectangle, but more potato.  And I was surprised to discover that many different dress styles looked good on me!  I ended up with a dress that is somewhere between fluffy A-line and smallish ballgown, but I was surprised that I really liked a mermaid and trumpet too.  

When you’re looking for your dress, tell the mean voices (either on the inside or the outside) to BE QUIET and just enjoy your beautiful bridal moment!  

Post # 30
4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think u should wear WHATEVER makes u feel like the most beautiful bride and FUCK what everyone else thinks!

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