(Closed) Friend says “congratulations on engagement!!” — but I’m NOT engaged!! Awkward!!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Awkward! At least she didn’t think you were pregnant…I’d take a mistaken engagement over a mistaken pregnancy any day. Wink

Post # 5
Member
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

once when i thought i was about to be getting engaged, it turned out my guy had not been shopping for a ring – but cheating on me instead!!!  when i saw people in my extended family, none of which knew what i was going through privately, they all gushed that i would be getting engaged/married soon, and i wanted to curl up and die. 

Post # 6
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MrsTVLover: ‘Cause *that’ll* make the OP feel better…??? Sorry about your past situation but eep…

@LondonAmericana: Sorry for the awkward moment at the party. Don’t worry about what others may or may not be thinking. Most people are too consumed with their own worlds to analyze the details of others. You and your Mr. London are moving at the pace that is right for you and soon you will go back to Girl 1 and say, okay, re-do, come ask me again because I’ve got the ring this time. 😉 Smile and look forward to that big special moment of yours. You’re getting there!

Post # 7
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1458 posts
Bumble bee

Yep, I had that with a previous relationship.  The first time I met his family was at his brother’s wedding.  I had several extended family members ask us when our wedding was and why they weren’t invited.  Not only did I not have an engagement ring, we had only been dating a few weeks by that time it was AWKWARD.  That was an interesting wedding too as someone kept giving the grandmother in her 80s jello shots. 

Post # 9
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72 posts
Worker bee

Ugh.  This was painful to read.  I’m so sorry you had to have this conversation.  There is nothing worse than having to EXPLAIN the validity of your relationship while getting the sideways head-tilt as if the other person is saying “Awww..she can’t get him to commit.  Poor thing.”  

[HUGS]

Post # 10
Member
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

LOL! One of my FIs employees made a comment about my beautiful ring, about a week before he asked me. Apparently, he had shown her and the other people in the office right after he bought it. She was mortified, I was stunned (but elated!) and I just let it go. Her comment was true, just a week premature.

Post # 11
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73 posts
Worker bee

Yes! I had a coworker ask me today “whens the wedding date?!”. lol We do have a date, but I didn’t tell her bc I don’t have my ring yet and its not official. People are so eager!

Post # 13
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413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t usually get stuff like that. But normally when J and I go away together (even if it’s just a day trip) people always assume that I’ll come back engaged. And when I don’t, they say to me: “Aw, that sucks. I thought for sure you’d get engaged while you were away”. My response? “Ya, so did a lot of people. Sorry.”

I’m bitter today, lol.

Gwen

Post # 14
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2889 posts
Sugar bee

haha last summer a few of my colleagues made a bet on another colleague getting engaged on vacation. I somehow missed the whole thing and never expected them to get engaged but one of the other women in the office was legit disapointed to hear she lost the bet when N came back w/o a ring. I can only imagine how that was awkard for N!

I think the best advice is better to be asked if you are engaged than asked if you are pregnant!

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