Post # 32
Vegasbaby- there was no alcohol involved, but your second comment regarding the crush is actually a little worrisome. She’s actually not engaged, doesnt have a bf and really hasn’t had a serious relationship, I do have a lot of friends that are, but she is not one of them, sorry if I somehow was confusing on that 🙂
I’ve had a few of our mutual friends mention to me that they think she may have stronger than friend feelings for him but I’ve always just brushed them aside. Thats the only thing I could think would be the underlying issue, and the more I think about it the more I wonder now. Me and her are very close and we do next to everything together, but she does often make comments that make me think she is a tad jealous and it may be because of FH. I hate to jump to conclusions but it does seem like a logical answer…
Post # 33
If it is a possibilty then maybe you should talk to FH about it, and see how he feels about it and thinks if it is true or not, and then maybe talk to her about it if you don’t think she will blow up about it. I don’t know about you or anyone else but I don’t think I could have someone who is jealous of me because she wants me Fi would be standing up for me at my wedding because then she is not genuinly happy for you.
Post # 34
It might explain why she would take his phone call and act like nothings wrong…
Post # 35
Ms.Charleston, That’s what I was thinking but I didn’t want to say it. Think about it, shes a good friend who loves your fiance but then is telling you NOT to marry him over something that seems completely accidental? Then she gets mad because you didn’t break up sooner? Plus she spoke to your fiance like there was nothing wrong. I would think she’s waaaay jealous and just upset that if the two of you get married she won’t have any chance with him. That be said there could still be a different issue, but you sure stumbled into a messy situation!!
Post # 36
I also agree with pinkpinstripes. I really have no clue what else it could be, because if she is that concerned about it, I don’t think she would be his friend or any of that.
Post # 37
This was my gut instinct as well– that she may have feelings for him and is using this incident as a way to back out of the wedding. I didn’t want to say it because abuse is such a serious topic and I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt.
@Ms.Charleston Pearls: It does sound like there might be something there. I’m sorry you are going through this as it sounds difficult all around.
Post # 38
I was thinking the whole time reading all the comments that she must have a thing for your FH. I bet thats what it is! That would make total sence why shes mad at you for something you didnt do and still talks to him!
Post # 39
I’m meeting up with my closest friends for a girl night tonight just to get some more input. If this is the case and she does have major feelings for FH I don’t even know how to approach the situation! I know he is in no way interested in her, we’ve been together for like 10 years and in that entire time he’s always considered her more of a sister than anything but I wouldn’t know where to even begin bringing this up! This is getting entirely too complicated for me!!!
Post # 40
So sorry you have to deal with this with a good friend/BM (or so you think/thought)-
My SO is the most non-violent person ever, but one night (st.patrick’s day) he got too drunk and I was driving home… while he was telling me how ‘not drunk’ he was and demonstrating what being ‘actually drunk’ would be like (flailing his arms around in my Jetta), he hit me in the face and knocked my glasses off, which caused a scrape across my nose.
I still make fun of him to this day about how ‘not drunk’ he was. No one would ever claim he was abusice becuase of that. I’m with the last few posters, something else must be wrong that she’s using this as an excuse for to get out of the wedding party.
Post # 41
I thought she must be interested in him also, but didn’t want to bring it up. It’s the only thing that makes sense to me. Sorry you are in this situation. Maybe it’s for the best she’s not in the wedding. I can understand her not being able to do this if she in fact does have feelings for him. And, I’m sure you’d prefer her not to be too.
Post # 42
Well… at least you’re dealing with this now while you still have plenty of time. Can you imagine if this drama happened like a month before your wedding?
Obviously I’m a girl but I can’t understand why other girls create this kind of drama! We’re all too complicated for our own good 🙂