Friend says my e-ring is "huge", not in a complimenting way

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

chocobo124 :  omg it’s stunning!! Congratulations. Welcome to the bee. Look at your gorgeous long slender fingers, lucky lady! Your ring is big, but it’s perfect. The halo is Devine. What more can I say I love it 😊!! 

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

chocobo124 :  Your ring is large but in no way is it guady or any other negative term. I’d honestly be considering my friendship with someone so rude as opposed to whether my ring is too large…. Your ring isn’t the problem here. It’s unfortunately your friend who is the problem.

 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It is a nice size. You have teeny fingers which make it look bigger, but it isn’t huge. Just love the ring, and ignore the friend!

Post # 19
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Busy bee

chocobo124 :  Girl your ring is Beautiful!!!  I know EXACTLY  how you feel my ring is big. I have been told It’s gaudy, elaborate, doorknocker, and to over the top. At first it hurt my feelings but then I thought hey it’s my ring my taste and I love my ring and that is what is important. So Don’t let anyone get you down about your beautiful ring cause that is exactly what it is beautiful so you wear your ring with pride. Everyone is entitled to their own taste.πŸ˜‰ Here’s my gaudy, elaborate ring LOL, But remember I love it.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Another Aussie bee here!

My ring is not quite as large as yours and doesn’t have a halo, but I also had a few friends comment on how big it was. I also have smaller fingers, so just wondered whether that was making the stone look larger, but as time went on I started to think that these girls were jealous/trying to bring me down to make themselves feel better. One or two of them are nowhere near getting engaged, and another has since gotten engaged (her ring is gorgeous IMO but is noticeably smaller than mine – she never really showed it off, which makes me think she’s embarrassed by it). A close friend of mine is recently engaged – she has a pear shaped stone with a halo and it does look big, but is completely her. The same friends have commented on the size of her ring, too.

Don’t sweat it bee – your ring is gorgeous and you love it, that’s all that matters.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

It’s a matter of individual preference, and no, it doesn’t always hinge on jealousy that colors someone’s opinion. She’s just a shady “friend.” That is not something you offer your personal preference on as a friend. If she prefers a different kind of ring, good, she can have that kind of ring when the time comes. Otherwise, what she thinks really doesn’t matter towards anything. Your relationship doesn’t involve her.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

owls :  no way!! People can be so rude! Sometimes I think people say things without meaning to be rude, but it hurts! Your ring is gorgeous and looks lovely on you! We have the same taste lol and great taste I think  πŸ˜‰

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2018

In my opinion, e-rings are supposed to shine, and yours definitely does! I think your ring is gorgeous. Don’t worry about what your friend says. If you love it, rock it! 

Post # 24
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Busy bee

EmeleeRose :  Girl you are awesme lady!!! I love to talk with you. You are just to kind. And have wonderful taste LOL, A woman after my own heart.😁😁😁😁😁

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

It’s probably “large” for Australia as a whole, but I would have thought pretty standard for Sydney??

I think it’s lovely. She sounds like a crappy friend. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

chocobo124 :  I think it all comes down to preference, at the end of the day she’s not the woman wearing it. While it is pretty big, it depends on your taste and if you love it then she will have to get over it. Think she just might be jealous with a comment like that. 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee

I think your ring is lovely! It really depends on the area you live in… I am from LA where that’s a pretty average sized ring, but I am also currently in Switzerland where 1 carat would already be considered large because people here tend to understate. But I am always for getting and rocking what you love! Seriously, don’t give too much thought to the glass-half-empty, put others down sort of folk. I know friends like yours; they tend to be of the jealous sort 

Post # 28
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Busy bee

chocobo124 :  I completely understand where you’re coming from.. I used to live in nyc (the rings there are huge and your friend will probably think everyone’s rings are gaudy here) and then I moved to Singapore.. here in Singapore, the e rings are on the smaller end of the spectrum.. you don’t even see a lot of rings near the half carat mark.. most rings are prob 0.30 ct. Now I used to live in New York where the average center stone is a 2 ct. I have a 3.82ct pear diamond and I stick out in Singapore like a sore thumb!! Haha πŸ˜† anyway, it has deterred me from wearing the ring wherever I go so I pick and choose where I wear my ring to. Point is, if your friend thinks your ring is gaudy, she’ll probably think mine is obnoxious and guess what, that’s not going to bother me one bit because I love my ring and if I can afford it, I’ll buy the biggest diamond out there!πŸ˜‚ don’t let anyone take you down honey!! Xx

p.s. I super love your ring

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

owls :  aww you are most welcome! Love talking to you too πŸ€— thank you

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

chocobo124 :  I’m australian and honestly yeh it looks like a big/flashy ring to me (not just the diamond size but the halo and pave as well). It would be too big for me to feel comfortable wearing day to day because I know it would stand out where I am, and I work with a lot of people who don’t have much money. 

I don’t think it’s gaudy/ over the top in an ugly way though, rather it’s still tasteful and beautiful. I could see myself wearing it if I say worked in Sydney in a corporate job (rather than in rural australia in healthcare like I currently do). 

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