Friend says my e-ring is "huge", not in a complimenting way

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I love your ring!!  Dont listen what others think about it! You know what? In country where I am originally from, people doesnt care about e-rings and diamond rings seems like its something over the top and not everyone can afford even a small one. Well most of the stores cant ever offer diamond rings for sale. So I basically cant show off my ring to anybody i know there. Because they will think i am bragging about it. They think its crazy to have a 1 ct diamond on your finger. 

So, relax and enjoy your ring:) here in US it doesnt look big:) 

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

Your ring is beautiful.  Don’t let people steal your joy with comments on your ring. It’s gorgeous and best of all it was given to you with love,so love your ring and your fiance and don’t even give negative comments any attention.

Post # 33
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Where I live, yours is considered big too. But who cares? Your ring is beautiful! And I’m sure your friend is just being jealous. Bet hers is tiny af.

Post # 34
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Busy bee

chocobo124 :  congratulations on your engagement! Just ignore her. The bees can tell you what ring envy is.. she’s probably gone to extreme end of the spectrum. You’ve got a pretty rock, so rock it!!! 😘

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

Where I live your ring would be considered average-large but in a good way! Don’t let jealous people ruin this special time for you! Your ring is stunning!

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’d ont think it’s too big. With your finger size being so small it makes the ring look much bigger. You chose that ring because you yo loved it, don’t let anyone put you down. If she is a friend, then she will be supportive and not negative. Just tell her that you love it and you would appreciate it if she kept her comments to herself.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

I have the same problem and live in the uk where rings are small on average. After going back and forth with it, I like big rings and dont think they can be too big unless the whole ring is wider than your fingers! Yours looks great. But you’ll have to put up with strangers thinking your fiance is loaded or your ring isn’t diamond (mine isn’t ha) but most probably don’t care about what you wear 

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

chocobo124 :  for my tastes it’s far too big for an every day ring; personally inkeep that sort of coverage for cocktail rings.

I don’t know your friend and don’t know how she said it, but I don’t see what she said as necessarily insulting. Some people just aren’t great at lying so maybe rather than gush when it isn’t to her tastes she decided to take the more statement of fact approach?

I feel like she’s kind of in a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation where if she’d lied about how much she loved it you’d still have picked up that she was lying and still be posting on here complaining.

Post # 39
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Worker bee

Tell her you are doing it American Style lol We love our big rings. She MUST be jealous because that ring is to die for. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

You have a gorgeous ring! Do I think it’s big? Yes, but it’s not gaudy. Would I want it as my ring? No, because I love the practicality of small rings. Should my opinion matter? No!! You just be happy, and if this is your dream ring, then relish in it!

Most importantly: would I ever give any friend crap about choosing a larger ring? ABSOLUTELY NOT! I support and encourage my friends and would never say something bad about their rings. It sounds to me as if she has more of a self esteem/jelousy issue.

Ignore her and enjoy your ring!

Post # 41
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

It’s a big ring but it’s pretty. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Just because someone comments that your ring is big it doesn’t mean that it’s an insult.  Same if you ring is small.  If the average in your area is 0.3 – 1ct, then yeah, it is big.  And it has a halo…and you have tiny fingers so it IS going to look big relative to other rings out there.

It’s a very pretty ring and would be considered on the larger side where I live too.  You have to be the one confident wearing it and it sounds like since it’s way above average size you may get more than one comment on it.  You have to let those comments slide.

Post # 43
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Bumble Beekeeper

Who are these people that make judgy/negative remarks about other people’s rings? These threads never cease to amaze me. Of course we all have our own taste and private opinions about other people’s jewelry, but to say to someone’s face your ring is too big, too small, too gaudy – ANYTHING NEGATIVE AT ALL is just the epitome of classless. I don’t get it!

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

I think it’s huge, but in a good way! Seriously, I don’t know wtf is wrong with people (especially “friends”!!!) who think it’s okay to waltz up to someone and bash what they are wearing. 

Post # 45
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

If you love it then it doesn’t matter what people think.

I’m British and the rings here are small and expensive.

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