Friend says my e-ring is "huge", not in a complimenting way

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
Hostess
3190 posts
Sugar bee

This girl does not sound like your “friend”.

Post # 47
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5954 posts
Bee Keeper

amanda1988 :  Totally agree with this. 

Some people love to try and take others down a notch or two, for some reason this makes them feel good. That’s a sad way to be, petty and begrudging, instead of able to feel genuine happiness for somoene else. 

p.s. your ring is gorgeous OP. 

Post # 48
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14 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I can only speak for myself, but maybe she was just a little surprised at the size and it came off as judgy?  I’m in Boston and see my share of gorgeous, sparkly rings but they’re just not me.  I knew I didn’t want a diamond, nor did I want anything sparkly or large.  I’ve had a lot of very rude comments about my ring inferring that my partner doesn’t love me or that I must not be important to him… and have even had people say it’s a nice starter ring but that I can always upgrade πŸ™

honestly, I wouldn’t put much thought into it, if you love the ring that’s all that matters πŸ™‚

Post # 49
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1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Just here to say that I love your ring! Ignore your friend, it looks stunning on your hand!

Post # 50
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78 posts
Worker bee

Your ring is gorgeous and most importantly, given to you by the one you love. Rock it and don’t worry about anyone else!

Post # 51
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3037 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I know this is regional and as you said, you’re not American where people tend to go big or go home, but rather than thinking “What a huge ring!” I thought “What tiny fingers!”.

I bet it wouldn’t look so big on an average size 6 hand. 

Your friend is being rude, but you can’t let her affect how much you love your ring. Mouthy people with no mental filter will share unsolicited opinions about your ring regardless of how big, small, simple, or elaborate it is. You can’t please everyone so just please yourself. 

Post # 52
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your ring is absolutely STUNNING!

I’m a UK bee (who currently lives in Switzerland). Rings in the UK, at least in my friendship group, are on the 0.3 – 0.75ct ish size, and in Switzerland, it’s actually very normal to have a TINY engagement ring, then not wear it at all after the wedding, so a lot of plain bands going on.

I’m currently waiting on an upgrade that I’m hoping to have in Feb, that’s a 1.51ct oval diamond. It’s going to look huge if I compare it to everyone around me, but you know what? I love it. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time, and my hubby and i really took time to do the process together this time, and we both contributed to it financially.

The way I see it is if you love it, then great! I see plenty of people spend WAAAAAY more money on cars that they will only keep for a few years… I’ve not spent even a fraction of that to get the ring I love for the rest of my life!

Post # 53
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886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

chocobo124 :  your ring is beautiful, yes it’s big but it is absolutely stunning and looks perfect on your hand. Don’t let one “friend” steal your enjoyment, wear it proudly.

Post # 54
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1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

It’s STUNNING!  I don’t think it’s too big, but like you said over there rings are smaller so it may have just been a shock to her.  If you love the ring, who cares and wear that stunner big and proud!

Post # 55
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think your ring is beautiful. I also think your friend was very rude to tell you that it was too big. It sounds like she is jelous.

Post # 56
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6093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Your ring is beautiful and looks great on your hand. Why are you worried about the opinion of some chick with manners so poor she doesn’t even know that you don’t poopoo someone’s friggin engagement ring?

I don’t do the frenemy thing. I think it’s stupid and a waste of time and energy. Maybe you don’t do the frenemy thing, either, and this friend needs to have some boundaries clarified.

Post # 57
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952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

chocobo124 :  First I would like to say, congrats and your ering is stunning.  My ering is a 1.52 diamond oval with .50 halo setting.  I don’t get many comments nor do I care.  I do remember once being told “Bling Bling” by one of my sister in laws, but it wasn’t in a nice tone.  I love my wedding set and no one can take away it’s sparkle and my joy. close up small

Post # 58
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112 posts
Blushing bee

chocobo124 :  I’m in Sydney too and recently had my wedding set remodelled. Mine is a three stone halo and one of my friends said omg that’s huge! It wasn’t in a very nice way either but I don’t care. I love love love my rings and we all have our own taste. Your ring is stunning and looks beautiful on your hand. Wear it with pride! And congrats on your engagement.

Post # 59
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

chocobo124 :  It’s big, yes. But if that’s what you like and want, then your friend’s opinion about it is irrelevant.  

I have a very simple solitaire on a very simple band.  I’m quite sure there are people who’d look at it and think it’s terribly plain or boring.  And that’s ok!  It’s what I like and fits my lifestyle and FI’s budget.  That’s all that matters. πŸ™‚

Post # 60
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

mrskurz :  You sound like you’ll be my ring twin!  I have the same ring you’re getting! πŸ™‚  Congrats!

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