Friend says my e-ring is "huge", not in a complimenting way

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2018

If you love it then it doesn’t really matter. I’d like to say “why do you even care what she says” but we all know it does matter and a lot of us do look to our peers for validation and acceptanace. 

Even if it does look gaudy to your friends it’s actually kind of gaudy (aka not very classy) OF HER to say that to your face.  That’s just intentionally trying to make you feel bad about yourself, or she wasn’t raised with good manners. 

My actual European aristocrat (aka real classy) friends would never *say* anything out in the open like that. Maybe your friend has different values but in any case if you’re happy then she should be happy for you.  Shame on her for making you feel this way!

Post # 62
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378 posts
Helper bee

It is gorgeous.  She is jealous.  

Post # 63
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1204 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

chocobo124 :  GORGEOUS!! I say flaunt it. You have tiny fingers which is why you have such amazing coverage, and honestly anyone who says “too big” is probably a bit envious imo. 

Post # 64
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I can’t see any other explanation other than jealousy.

It is also compounded because your fingers are so tiny, and that stone is larger than the society’s norm, so it is a double whammy lol.

However, soak it up, enjoy your beautiful ring and don’t let the envious haters get to you. Congrats!

Post # 65
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661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Your ring is big.. and BEAUTIFUL. I love it. Rock that ring if you love it!

Post # 66
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139 posts
Blushing bee

chocobo124 :  Your ring is beautiful, enjoy this time! You mentioned that you helped pick out your ring, so you chose this because YOU liked it (and that’s all the matters). You can’t control other people’s behavior, but you can control your response to it. In this case, I’d forget about what your “friend” said and enjoy this magical time with your new fiance (and those who are genuinely happy for you)! 

Post # 67
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136 posts
Blushing bee

FLAUNT. IT! Wear it with pride. I am a size 4.5 and I wear my set with a smile on my face. People can think and say what they want. Don’t let others take your happiness away! Wear that ring and make sure the light coming from it catches your friend’s eye every chance you get ๐Ÿ˜‰

 

Post # 69
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Wannabee

When she says your ring is “huge” just ignore her tone and respond enthusiastically, “I know! Isn’t it gorgeous? I love it!” She’ll either get the hint and shut up or if she doubles down and says something even more direct and rude about it, shrug it off and say, “What can I say? He wanted to spoil me. I’m a very lucky girl.”

Nothing shuts down jealous people trying to shame you like a bunch of confidence and turning every negative thing they say into a positive for you. 

Post # 70
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Worker bee

chocobo124 :  Don’t pay any attention to your friend’s nonsensical comments. All that matter is you love the ring, it looks beautiful on your slender finger…besides oval shapes will generally give more finger coverage which i think is great! ๐Ÿ™‚ Shut out the noise….haters will be haters! 

Post # 71
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365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I have a ring with similar proportions and when we first got engaged a work colleague asked me what centre stone it was as it ‘doesn’t look like a diamond’! My mum then admitted that she thought the same but wasn’t rude enough to ask! I think it because it’s an oval and like you it’s slightly bigger than some rings in my area.  Your ‘friend’ doesn’t sound very ‘friend like’! Your ring is lovely but I’ve concluded that it’s all about personal choice! After nearly a year I still get butterflies every time I look at my ring. I hope you feel the same. My nan once said ‘dulling someone else’s sparkle doesn’t make yours shine brighter.’ Maybe someone needs to tell your friend that! 

Beauts ring bee! Wear it with pride! 

 

Post # 72
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Bumble bee

Haters are so transparent. 

Just ignore people who lack manners.

Your ring is fab!

 

xo

Post # 73
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365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Can I also just add, it confounds me since I’ve got engaged how ppl think it’s ok to comment on you ring, uninvited! As if anyone would push your hair behind your ear and look at your earrings and say ‘nice but not my taste’ or grab your wrist and comment ‘that bracelet is a little big for my taste’! Why do some people think it’s socially acceptable to do this with an engagement ring? So bizarre! #baffled

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