Friend says my e-ring is "huge", not in a complimenting way

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 91
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Helper bee

It’s stunning. There is no such thing as a “too big” diamond. πŸ™‚ I think you would be sad if you downsized. 

Post # 92
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Bumble Beekeeper

chocobo124 :  

Well, a friend who tells you your breasts and diamonds are too big ….. if she mentions it again say yes, I  had to get it to match my tits. Then  laugh and admire it  extravagantly in the sunlight.  

Post # 93
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I love your ring !! But then again I love halos as I have one !! Rock that rock !! She is just jealous . He’l don’t let her see my ring she would probably faint lmao . 

Post # 94
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Blushing bee

I love your ring! Beautiful! i think its a great size. I live in connecicut outside of NYC, my ring is 2.56 carats center stone, over 3 cts total. I would consider my ring average. 

Post # 95
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Newbee

All of the rings in this thread are beutiful!! Your “friend” just sounds jealy. Rock it! The ring is a s personal as a marriage. its none of anyone else’s business. if it is a dear friend, and it truly bothers you, let her know that you really love the ring and that her tone made you sad!
Communicating is key in every relationship. spousal or friend <3

Post # 96
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

dannij8918 :  Love that saying from your nan! 

Post # 97
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I think that person is just jealous.  Your ring is gorgeous!  I could understand if you were sporting like a 10 ct or even a 5 ct, but this ring just seems to be cutting edge for your country and she is just jealous that you are starting a trend with the oval halos.  I am sure other friends will see it and want one too!

 

Post # 98
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

chocobo124 :  Your ring is just that: YOUR RING (which I think is gorgeous, by the way). This is what you and your partner chose and what, ultimately, YOU BOTH are happy with.

Your friend is imposing her unwarranted comments on your ring when she should know better (many of us are familiar with the saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything”). Whether her comment stems from personal insecurity (thinking she won’t be able to have a ring of that size) or a personal preference (that rings don’t need to be bigger than — carats) really makes no difference. This isn’t her ring. You are recently engaged! This is what loved ones and good friends should be focusing on. Yay! Happiness! Positivity! There’s no room for any negativity or added stress. I don’t know how long you’ve been friends, nor the extent of your friendship (how close you are, what you do together, what kind of person she is, etc), so I’m not going to rain on the friendship itself. However, it is worth considering whether you feel she is a good friend to you and if you are comfortable sharing things with her (is she bridesmaid material?).

It’s possible she didn’t check herself on her tone when making that comment, but I don’t want to make excuses for her (we do that too much with people). Her comment obviously is affecting you, and on that basis alone, it’s not okay. Try not to focus on the judgments of others and instead reframe anything potentially negative that comes your way (“That’s the dress you chose?” Yes, isn’t it amazing? “Why do you want This instead of That?” Because I love That! It’s so us! “I don’t like that style very much.” Thanks for sharing that with me, but I really like it. Maybe you can go with the style you like for your own wedding).

In short, my main advice to you is to keep doing you. You want that ring? Get it. You like a certain type of bouquet? It’s yours. This occasion is about you and your Fiance. Anything or anyone that continues to blanket your sun with shade isn’t supporting you the way close friends and loved ones should be.

Post # 99
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Canadian Rockies

chocobo124 :  I like it! American here. I’ve always been a fan of huge cocktail rings, and the E ring I’m looking at is a 9mm lab sapphire.. so IMO yours is fine! πŸ™‚ I wonder if some people just assume that it cost a lot and are just jealous πŸ˜‰

Post # 100
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Canadian Rockies

amandajane4949 :  Gorgeous! Also, love the nails! Are those stencils, stick on, or…?

Post # 101
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Worker bee

I think it looks great on you! Don’t let anyones opinion upset it, it’s yours so as long as you love it F what everyone else thinks!

Post # 102
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Canadian Rockies

owls :  Wow, what a rock! Gorgeous πŸ™‚ Diamond?

Post # 103
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Canadian Rockies

kaitm :  Wow, so pretty. Definitely not the average in Ohio πŸ˜‰ Interesting to think about, how it varies from state to state

Post # 104
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

chocobo124 :  honestly sweetie it’s gorgeous. You have beautiful bone structure and long fingers that make the oval of the ring really stand out and look elegant as well. Your hand just looks really classy!! I think she is just being a hater and honestly it doesn’t matter what other people say. It’s your ring and you have to look at it everyday and it was made for YOU not her. In this instance, your ring is ALL about you. So no one else’s opinion matters as long as you love it, which you mentioned you do! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 105
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Bumble bee

UK bee here, your ring is gorgeous, but by U.K. standards (not sure about Australian) it would be very large and too big for me personally. I’m not saying it looks flashy or gaudy, but I do think it looks huge and I wouldn’t personally feel comfortable wearing a ring that big as it would attract a lot of attention. 

I think there may be an element of jealousy in your friend’s comments, however, if your ring is A LOT bigger than the average for your area then your gonna get this kind of negative attention unfortunately. 

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