(Closed) Friend showed my FH my dress!! I could murder him

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your wedding isn’t until May, so by that time I seriously doubt your Fiance will remember a dress he saw on a cell phone screen for a split second.  I understand your disappointment, but to tell someone that they “ruined your wedding” or to even think that your wedding will be ruined by something so trivial is a bit dramatic.

What your friend did is certaintly inconsiderate, but it was most likely innocent.  To make him feel bad about an unintentional act that he can not take back seems cruel and unneccesary.

Take a deep breath and relax.  It will all be ok.  Your wedding will be beautiful and the last thing on either of your minds that day will be the fact that he caught a glimpse of a model in your dress 8 months earlier!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The PP is right. Your Fiance is NOT going to remember what the dress looks like. My Fiance saw a photo of my dress before I bought it and he has no clue what it looks like now.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well, I certainly think your friend is an IDIOT!! Who doesn’t know that you are not meant to do that. I don’t blame you for being angry – I’d have been furious myself.

HOWEVER…I do agree with the other Bees that by the time your day comes around, your Fiance will have totally forgotten the fleeting glimpse he’d seen on a tiny screen. You know what men are like – wouldn’t recognise their own trousers on the line.

Remember also – that you will have your hair done and all your accessories, and I’m sure you will look beautiful. He’ll be blown away, and probably it won’t even occur to him to think that he’s seen the dress before.

Perhaps you could even tell a little white lie that you’d exchanged it, just to throw him off the scent?

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Was it a picture of you in the dress or the model?

Your friend obviously has no idea of manners when it comes to this subject.  It may just be me, but I also think it’s odd that a man asked to see the bridesmaid dresses?

Post # 6
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1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He’s a guy.  I bet all he saw was a long white dress.  Don’t worry…it’ll be a totally different experience for him to see it in person.

Post # 8
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Seriously, don’t stress. I understand you being upset, but I would bet big money that your FH won’t remember what your dress looks like by the time you get married. He’s probably already forgotten! πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

if it was not a pic of you IN the dress I would not worry about it. Your friend is an ass though.

Post # 10
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

I’m not gonna lie, I’m the type of person who would tell a friend that they pissed me off and shouldn’t have done that kind of thing.  I mean, you should tell them so they don’t do anything stupid like that again.  Sure, they probably didn’t really think about it but hey!  You don’t want any other future brides to be disappointed like this by the same guy.

 

Post # 11
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My Darling Husband actually helped pick my dress out and saw it in our closet when I brought it home. He didn’t see me WEARING it until I walked threw the doors at our wedding but he knew what it looked like. I agree with the others though. I doubt he will remember what he saw by the time you get married.

Post # 12
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That is so frustrating and I am sorry you had this happen to you. 

Though I don’t know your FH I am pretty sure by the time your wedding rolls around he will most likely have forgotten what it looks like. Especially because it was a small picture on your phone and I am assuming he only saw it for like 2 seconds. 

It probably seems like a lame thing to say right now considering I’d be really unhappy as well, but try not to stress too much about it! Guys forget things easily! πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

He’s a guy.  Gay or not, he probably didn’t realize, especially in the moment, that it is generally customary for the groom not to see the dress before the wedding.  Like other bees have said, the real deal is going to be much different than a split-second glimpse on a cell phone.  I personally wouldn’t bring it up, but if you do, don’t be rude or mean about it.  Just mention, “Hey, for future reference, (insert groom’s name here) doesn’t know any details about my dress, so keep anything you see/hear from now on to yourself.”

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@JBing: There are seriously so many dresses that look completely different on the models than real brides… he won’t remember every detail, he’s a guy! : )

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