(Closed) Friend thinks I am unable to read subtle hints.. what do you think?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
198 posts
Blushing bee

Just in my opinion, I think your friend is wrong. The way he worded that seems pretty upfront to me. With guys there is rarely any “reading between the lines”.

Post # 4
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011


IMO, I think he is just trying to keep you informed, so you don’t find out from someone else. He is probably upset because he doesn’t want her to come between the two of you. I would just play things by ear to see how things go, if I were you. Sure, it is probably going to be uncomfortable for both of you for a while, but he is obviously not with her and with you for a reason.

Post # 5
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

errrr maybe I don’t know Australian lingo but I can’t find a hint of anything regarding wanting to leave you for her….

Post # 6
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hmm..I could see this working 2 different ways:

1) your friend is right and he is just saying that now so he doesn’t get in trouble later for lying by omission.  

2) he really is pissed.

Either way, it’s probably him she’s coming back for so decide if you want to be in all that drama..

Post # 7
7 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Your friend isn’t in your relationship, so why should you listen to her ?  If you’re concerned about your boyfriends ex coming back, talk to him about it.  He might be pissed that she’s waltzing back into a life she so easily left behind, worried that she’ll upset the new relationship he has with you or just as confused about what’ll be happening as you are.  The most dense thing you could do is stop talking to him because someone that he broke up with is coming back to town.

Post # 8
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ladyluckystars: I don’t see where your friend got that. It sounds like he is telling you before you find out and feel some type of way about it.

He didn’t text you “Oh, my ex is coming back and I’m going to work it out with her now. see ya!”

Post # 9
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think he’s torn. He’s for sure still hung up on her… but that’s not to say he doesn’t fancy you still. My advice tread carefully but proceed.

Post # 11
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t see him going back to the ex from that exchange.  I think he was being courteous and keeping you informed.  You may want to keep your eyes open in case something does come up regardng the ex (though I don’t think you need to) but I certainly WOULD NOT stop talking to him because of the those text messages.  That would be ridiculous!

Post # 12
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It sounds to me like there are a few possible reasons for him to be pissed about his ex coming back – 1) he wants to get back with her and he’s upset because her leaving in the first place made things complicated now, 2) he’s legitimately upset at her and doesn’t want to get back with her – the fact that she is returning after ending their relationship upsets him, or 3) he’s upset that her returning might come between you two.

Hoenstly, the latter two seem more likely to me and I don’t see where your friend is coming from. However, I do think it would be good for you and M to sit down and talk about what his ex returning means to him and what he wants and everything.

Post # 13
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d keep an eye out, but I can’t help wondering if your friend was ever left for an ex and that’s why she’s so quick to jump to that conclusion.

Post # 14
14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t understand the beating around the bush, if you are in any way curious to know what her coming back means just ask him straight out.  Men are usually pretty direct about these types of things and would rather you ask then ignore it or wait it out.

Post # 15
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

OP: I just read the threads you started earlier – is this the same guy you were talking about in those? I’m wondering why he would have said those things about being worried about you being recently seperated if he was recently seperated as well. I’m starting to think that the reason he was hesistant earlier (and blamed it on your situation) is because he was still hung up on his own ex.

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