- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
My friend and I are both getting married next summer. My wedding is about a month before hers. We’ve been friends since high school and since I got engaged our friendship has been rocky. She was upset with me about having my wedding so close to hers which caused a fight between us especially when she asked me to change my date. She has been really mean and bridezilla like to me and a lot of other people since she started planning her wedding. My Fiance and I are in her wedding party and right now just her Fiance is in ours. I have not put her in my wedding party because I feel that she will stress me out more than I need to be and she hasn’t really been supportive or much of a friend since I got engaged.
We haven’t talk or really seen much of each other in months despite my attempts at trying to get us to hang out. We met up the other day to talk and she is giving me a week to decide whether I want to stay in her wedding party. Her and her Fiance feel that the way to save the friendships would be either for all of us to be in each others weddings or to just have 2 meaning one in ours and one in theirs. I felt like that put alot of pressure on me to decide whether I wanted to be in it or not and also I felt like she was trying to not be the bad guy by just kicking me out when I know thats what she wanted. I told her that it is a decision I can’t make because it is her wedding so it is up to her.
I told her I would stay in and support her on her big day or if she wanted to take me out I would be there as a guest but it was her decision. So she told me that she thought it would be best if both of us were just guests at each others weddings it would be less stressful. In a way I am glad not to be in the wedding because she was causing so much drama and stress but at the same time I am hurt that she took me out of the wedding, especially since I already have the dress. My concern is I don’t know how this is going to help save our friendship or if its even worth saving at this point.