Post # 1
I had several bridesmaids and one Maid/Matron of Honor. I have several great friends from high school that we were a group. I had one friend from later in life who knew no one else in the bridal party and we are very close. I by no ones like my Maid/Matron of Honor or consider her my BEST friend over the others. I just thought she was a good choice because we are close, she is a leader, and it wouldn’t be like I was picking one friend in my high school group over the others. Fine, whatever everything was fine until AFTER the wedding.
my friend who was a bridesmaid went off on me in public (crying, saying that she has been crying for months over this, saying she tried not to ruin my wedding, how she’ll never be a MOH)…I tried to explain why I made my choice so that no one would be hurt. I finally just left after about a half hour of this and don’t know where to go from here with her…….? She said she’ll never forgive me, I ripped her heart out…..etc.
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
She needs to out her big girl panties on and grow up. Sounds like you made a perfectly reasonable decision (which is entirely yours to make) and I would suspect she will eventually realise she’s behaving like a child and get over it. I would continue as normal in your relationship with her.
Post # 3
She’s being selfish and dramatic.
I would say you’re sorry her feelings were hurt, but that you chose the way you did to avoid that, and how would have the other girls in your group have felt if you chose her over them?
If she can’t forgive you over this silly thing, what kind of friend is she anyway?
Post # 4
Your wedding is long over, you explained yourself to her… I say tell her “I’m sorry if you feel that way, I’ll give you some time by yourself” and then don’t contact her.
If for whatever reason you still want to be friends, then I hope she comes to her senses and apologizes. Otherwise, good riddance.
Post # 5
That sucks. This would confirm for me that I made the right choice in not selecting her.