Post # 1
Does that matter?
One of my best friends, Mary, has always said she wants a black & white wedding. Unfortunately she told one of her engaged friends this, and the engaged friend took the B&W idea and used it herself, to Mary’s extreme disappointment.
Anyhoo I got engaged a few months ago and Fiance and I had decided we really love ivory, blush & soft neutral colors for the wedding. At this point I still thought Mary wanted a black and white wedding.
Mary recently told me she too now wants the exact same colors I’m using. Mary is getting engaged soon (her Boyfriend or Best Friend told me) and I’m sure she’ll be getting married before me because I’m having a long engagement.
I don’t want her to think I stole her color idea like this other friend did. We just happened to both love the same colors without discussing it. But I’m afraid if she does it first, it’ll look like I’m copying her.
Does this matter? I don’t mind us having the same color scheme but I think she might be upset!
Post # 3
To be honest, I don’t think people will remember if you both have the same colors. I will be using the same colors as my cousin but it will be 2 years inbetween our weddings. I did tell her though that I wanted those colors and she was very cool with it so maybe talk with your friend and let her know your plan? I don’t think she’d be bothered by it as long as you tell her
Post # 4
It doesn’t matter. Ivory and blush are just about the two most common wedding colors ever, so it’s highly likely that if she doesn’t use those colors, one of your other friends will anyway.
Post # 5
Nope doesnt matter you can both have the same colors and have completely different weddings. No one owns colors so you really cant be upset if someone you knows uses the same colors.
Post # 6
Personally I don’t think it matters very much, but I guess it varies based on how far apart your weddings are and how much guest overlap you have. Those colors are fairly common, so it’s not crazy that you both have similar taste. Also, remember that using the same colors doesn’t mean that you’ll have the same decor or style.
If you’re worried about her reaction to you using the same colors, try to approach it subtly by talking to her a little about your wedding plans and showing her some of your color inspirations. If she mentions that she likes that same colors, tell her that you don’t mind her using the same as yours and remind her that each of your weddings will still be a unique reflection of your personal style.
Post # 7
It doesn’t matter. I would make some comment early on like “It’s so funny we like the same colors – aren’t they great and all the rage on Pinterest?”. This can, hopefully, keep her from getting freaked. Because the only people that will probably notice or care is the two you. So don’t stress. No big deal!
Post # 8
No it doesn’t matter. I had a coworker look at my photos and blatantly say “I’m copying your wedding”. Grey/chartreuse/white (and marrying RCMP officers so their red dress uniform). And honestly she showed me her pictures after and I could barely see much similarity. Beyond colour there’s so much room for interpretation.
Post # 9
Not a big deal. No one who isn’t intimately involved in the planning of a particular wedding really notices or cares about that wedding’s colors. The only colors I can remember from anyone’s weddings are weddings I was in as a bridesmaid, and that’s only because I remember the color of my dress (I coudn’t tell you the “other” color, if there was one). Also the ivory, blush and neutral color palette is everywhere right now, so it’s not unusual for you both to choose it and not grounds for anyone to get upset.
Post # 10
It doesn’t matter. No one notices colors as much as they do the happy couple. You’ll see.
Post # 11
you could always do similar colours with a twist. here are 2 ideas of neutral colour that work and dont really look the same.
Post # 12
Ivory, white & blush colours are used at so so so many weddings (including mine). I guess they are almost like a ‘staple’ at weddings. I don’t think it would really matter, although it would have been nice to do things completely different which makes it more fun comparing ideas.
Post # 13
Most common wedding color combos:
Red, black, and white
Blue and green/purple