Post # 1
My friend and I are both getting married this year, I bought my dress almost a year ago and showed her the picture. Now she’s been looking at dresses for the last couple weeks and sent me a picture of her in the new season version of my dress (which is basically the same exact one) saying she thinks this might be the one and asking me what I thought?!
I am super bummed, because I feel like my dress is so special and I wanted to feel like it was unique to my wedding. Yes, I know the dresses are mass produced and obviously there are plenty of brides who will wear it. But they are not people I know who know about my dress. It’s not that I care about other people we know seeing it on both of us…but I just feel like it’s seriously uncool of her to rip my style like that on my wedding day… there are SOOOO many options out there…the same designer and style? Really? It would be one thing if I hadn’t shown her what I was wearing, but she knew.
I don’t want to be a brat about it, but now I’m really hoping somehow she hasn’t bought it yet and will change her mind.. I’m afraid to ask. It’s just awkward.
Post # 3
I would ask her as a friend to find a different dress. If she refuses, you can at least take comfort in the fact that you are getting married first, and she will be the copycat.
Post # 4
You showed her the picture a while ago. I am one who is TERRIBLE at remembering details from photos. I would give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn’t realize that it was almost the same dress and tell her somethine like, “You know, it looks awesome on you, but it looks almost exactly like mine. I think it would be better if we had different dresses so we could still feel like ours were each unique and special.” Remember, she is getting married after you, so everyone will see yours first and then if they notice it would be along the lines of “friends dress is so similar to waitingwonderlands dress.” It will be your dress first, always.
Post # 5
no one is going to remember what your dress looks like come her wedding.
You don’t own the design just because you’re wearing it first, let her wear the dress she wants, even if it’s the same as yours.
Post # 6
I’d probably say, “you’re not seriously getting the same dress as I did, are you?”. And hope she realizes how stupid she looks.
Post # 7
I would try and hint nicely that she is getting the same dress as you.
Post # 8
@NinjaDuck: I’m guessing she may not realize it’s the exact same dress. At least give her the benefit of the doubt. And if anyone would look silly, it would be her – she’s getting married second.
Post # 9
I agree that I would give her the benefit of the doubt and probably doesn’t realize it’s the same dress. I would mention how you like the dress since it appears to be the newer version of yours and see if she takes the hint. If she doesn’t realize, you get to wear it first!
Post # 10
They all look the same to me.
Post # 11
i think since yours is first it doesnt matter really
Post # 12
@waitingwonderland: which dresses are these? being able to see the two dresses would help with the advice. =)
Post # 13
@BookGirrl: I agree. I’ve seen some dresses on this site dozens and dozens of times posted by different people. Some dresses are just popular. Have you googled your dress? Are there lots of pictures of real brides in it? If there are, chances are it is just coincidence because it is a popular dress.
Post # 14
This may seem silly…but if she sent the picture today..any chance that she may be playing an April Fools joke? Tomorrow is April 1st, afterall. Totally random, just the first thing that came to my mind when I read your post.
Post # 15
@waitingwonderland: Can I see the two dresses in question?I’ve seen so many dresses on this site that look so close.
Post # 16
Whose wedding is first?
If yours is first, I can’t see any reason to object at all. If hers is first, I’d politely say something about how it’s practically identical to yours (which you’ve already bought so can’t change) and I’d prefer it if she chose something else. Perhaps she knows they’re almost identical and is checking for your approval.