(Closed) Friend wants the SAME DRESS UGH

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: If your friend wanted to wear the same dress in her wedding the same year...
    You would support it, it's a free country : (38 votes)
    18 %
    You would just be secretly kind of upset about it : (65 votes)
    31 %
    You would try to convince her not to. Nicely : (78 votes)
    37 %
    You would tell her that is not what friends do. Less nicely. : (28 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    46593 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would ask her as a friend to find a different dress. If she refuses, you can at least take comfort in the fact that you are getting married first, and she will be the copycat.

    Post # 4
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    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    You showed her the picture a while ago. I am one who is TERRIBLE at remembering details from photos. I would give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn’t realize that it was almost the same dress and tell her somethine like, “You know, it looks awesome on you, but it looks almost exactly like mine. I think it would be better if we had different dresses so we could still feel like ours were each unique and special.” Remember, she is getting married after you, so everyone will see yours first and then if they notice it would be along the lines of “friends dress is so similar to waitingwonderlands dress.” It will be your dress first, always. 

    Post # 5
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    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    no one is going to remember what your dress looks like come her wedding. 

    You don’t own the design just because you’re wearing it first, let her wear the dress she wants, even if it’s the same as yours.

    Post # 6
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    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d probably say, “you’re not seriously getting the same dress as I did, are you?”. And hope she realizes how stupid she looks. 

    Post # 7
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    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would try and hint nicely that she is getting the same dress as you. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @NinjaDuck:  I’m guessing she may not realize it’s the exact same dress. At least give her the benefit of the doubt. And if anyone would look silly, it would be her – she’s getting married second.

    Post # 9
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    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I agree that I would give her the benefit of the doubt and probably doesn’t realize it’s the same dress. I would mention how you like the dress since it appears to be the newer version of yours and see if she takes the hint. If she doesn’t realize, you get to wear it first!

    Post # 10
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    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    They all look the same to me.

    Post # 11
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    1839 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    i think since yours is first it doesnt matter really

     

    Post # 12
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    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @waitingwonderland:  which dresses are these? being able to see the two dresses would help with the advice. =)

    Post # 13
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    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @BookGirrl:  I agree.  I’ve seen some dresses on this site dozens and dozens of times posted by different people.  Some dresses are just popular.  Have you googled your dress?  Are there lots of pictures of real brides in it?  If there are, chances are it is just coincidence because it is a popular dress. 

    Post # 14
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    30 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    This may seem silly…but if she sent the picture today..any chance that she may be playing an April Fools joke? Tomorrow is April 1st, afterall. Totally random, just the first thing that came to my mind when I read your post. 

    Post # 15
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    1853 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @waitingwonderland:  Can I see the two dresses in question?I’ve seen so many dresses on this site that look so close.

    Post # 16
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    7683 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Whose wedding is first?

    If yours is first, I can’t see any reason to object at all. If hers is first, I’d politely say something about how it’s practically identical to yours (which you’ve already bought so can’t change) and I’d prefer it if she chose something else. Perhaps she knows they’re almost identical and is checking for your approval.

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