(Closed) Friend wants to bring her mom and sister to my wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Would not inviting them lead to your friend not being able to go?

Would that be okay if she chose her family over your wedding?

Or is it not that big of a deal to have your friend there with her family?

Tough choice, but to me…

If my friend was close enough to me and I had room I’d let her bring the two extra guest if that meant she could still attend my wedding and still spend time with her visiting family.  Would leave out the stress on her for having to choose a side ya know?

Post # 4
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7 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No, no, no.  I would tell them you only have two spots available, and although you would love for her and her hubby to come, you would understand if they cannot, given their visitors.  To allow them to bring extras will just open the floodgates imho.

Post # 6
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

On the one hand, I’m sure her mom and sister would likely have fun and enjoy the wedding even if they didn’t understand it all. You’re likely only going to encounter them for a few minutes to say hello and welcome, and you won’t really see them again/feel awkward during the evening.

On the other hand, if you really don’t care either way if she comes, I would skip it and say you don’t have space to accommodate them. Honestly, at this point it would come down to the budget for me.

Post # 7
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1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

For me, it would depend on the type of wedding I was having.  If it was a very small and intimate affair, I would probably say no.  If it is a larger wedding or a heavy party wedding then I would say, the more the merrier.  You have the space, and hey maybe you could learn a new dance 🙂

Post # 9
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3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You said you invited her last minute as it was– no brainer, don’t invite them.

Post # 10
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

The bottom line here is, if you want your friend and her husband to attend, then you extend the invitation to her mother and sister because you already know the cirmcumstances and that they won’t be able to attend if the others aren’t included.

It really just comes down to what you want. I doubt the fact that her family doesn’t speak english is going to make a big difference in your day, you’ll be too busy to notice past the introductions.

Post # 11
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would have been caught off guard too but I don’t think it’s a biggie if you have the room. BUT if you do not want them there then you don’t have to invite them!

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