Post # 1
I’m getting married next month, and I have less people RSVP’d than I expected. I decided to invite some friends of mine at the last minute. One of my friends is originally from Europe, but is married and lives in NC now. I invited her and her husband to the wedding, but I totally forgot that she told me her mother and sister would be visiting from Europe that week. I was caught off guard when she said she and her husband could only come if they could bring her mom and sister along.
I have the room to invite her mother and sister, but I’m not sure that I want them there. I’ve never met them before, plus my friend said they don’t really speak English. Should I invite her family or tell her I only have two spots open? What would you do in this situation?
Post # 3
Would not inviting them lead to your friend not being able to go?
Would that be okay if she chose her family over your wedding?
Or is it not that big of a deal to have your friend there with her family?
Tough choice, but to me…
If my friend was close enough to me and I had room I’d let her bring the two extra guest if that meant she could still attend my wedding and still spend time with her visiting family. Would leave out the stress on her for having to choose a side ya know?
Post # 4
No, no, no. I would tell them you only have two spots available, and although you would love for her and her hubby to come, you would understand if they cannot, given their visitors. To allow them to bring extras will just open the floodgates imho.
Post # 5
@PoeticDoveInLA: If I didn’t invite her family, then she wouldn’t come to the wedding. She doesn’t want to leave them alone, since they are coming to NC to visit her. I wouldn’t be upset if she couldn’t make it to the wedding, since I did invite her at the last minute and she’s not someone I’m extremely close to. I’m just trying to decide if I should be nice and invite her family, or if it would make the wedding awkward to have people there I don’t know and who don’t speak English.
Post # 6
On the one hand, I’m sure her mom and sister would likely have fun and enjoy the wedding even if they didn’t understand it all. You’re likely only going to encounter them for a few minutes to say hello and welcome, and you won’t really see them again/feel awkward during the evening.
On the other hand, if you really don’t care either way if she comes, I would skip it and say you don’t have space to accommodate them. Honestly, at this point it would come down to the budget for me.
Post # 7
For me, it would depend on the type of wedding I was having. If it was a very small and intimate affair, I would probably say no. If it is a larger wedding or a heavy party wedding then I would say, the more the merrier. You have the space, and hey maybe you could learn a new dance 🙂
Post # 8
@Schatzie821: It is going to be a smaller wedding of about 75 people. That is why I’m hesitant to invite her family, since everyone else there I will know pretty well.
Post # 9
You said you invited her last minute as it was– no brainer, don’t invite them.
Post # 10
The bottom line here is, if you want your friend and her husband to attend, then you extend the invitation to her mother and sister because you already know the cirmcumstances and that they won’t be able to attend if the others aren’t included.
It really just comes down to what you want. I doubt the fact that her family doesn’t speak english is going to make a big difference in your day, you’ll be too busy to notice past the introductions.
Post # 11
I would have been caught off guard too but I don’t think it’s a biggie if you have the room. BUT if you do not want them there then you don’t have to invite them!