Friend wants to throw me a bachelorette party, but they're not my thing.

posted 6 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1628 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

If you’re good friends tell her Vegas isn’t you’re thing.  If you’re more of the “have dinner with the girls” type then you should tell her.

Post # 3
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Say that you feel really honored that she wants to throw a party for you, but that, honestly, you would feel better doing xyz. If she‘s a good friend she‘ll understand, and wants whatever makes you happy!

Post # 4
6146 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

“That’s really sweet of you and I appreciate the thought but Las Vegas isn’t really my thing and I’d rather not.”

Post # 5
665 posts
Busy bee

I would just tell her, but then offer an alternative. “I don’t really feel like Las Vegas is really ‘me’, what about  renting an air bnb cabin for the weekend instead?”

Post # 6
1449 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

As someone who has suffered through 2 bachelorette parties she didn’t want, so not do this.  Be frank, be firm or end up at a dance club after dinner.  

Post # 7
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Might as well tell her that you’re not really the Vegas type person, so if she’s set on that party she might want to ask someone who is more in tune with that speed of event. If you’d be happy to plan the party, but would be more comfortable planning a different sort, tell her what you would be happy and honored to do. You never know, she might be flexible. I think the bottom line is to make it clear that you’re really pleased she asked but you’re just not a good “hire” for this specific party as you’d be in way over your head. Kind of like asking a vegetarian what kind of steak of serve – just the wrong fit.

Post # 8
3436 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

My fiend offered to throw me a bachelorette party and I just politely declined. I just said I wasn’t interested in having a bachelorette party but appreciated the offer. 

Post # 9
39 posts

Just let her know you truly appreciate it but something more low key would be preferred. I live in Las Vegas and would also hate a traditional Vegas bachelorette party. 

Post # 10
6442 posts
Bee Keeper

If she’s your good friend, be honest with her.  Tell her thank you so much for the thought and sentiment but no. 

Post # 11
20 posts
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’d do what a lot of the other people on here suggest. Just an appreciation for the offer, but explain you’d prefer not to. By the way, I asked exactly this question a few months ago and most of the people called me immature…

Post # 12
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Do not be afraid to tell them what you want to do. My bridal party knew the party scene is not my thing so they asked me what I wanted to do. I told them and they took my suggestions. I think it is even better that you do something different than the typical Vegas. 

Even suggesting something you want to do should be enough for them to want to do it because it is for you, after all. 

Good luck. Have fun. 

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