Post # 1
I have a very, very sweet friend who wants to throw me an over-the-weekend bachelorette party in Las Vegas. This is completely not my thing (I’m not into Vegas at all), and I don’t really know how to tell her. I’m afraid I’ll hurt her feelings. Any advice?
Post # 2
If you’re good friends tell her Vegas isn’t you’re thing. If you’re more of the “have dinner with the girls” type then you should tell her.
Post # 3
Say that you feel really honored that she wants to throw a party for you, but that, honestly, you would feel better doing xyz. If she‘s a good friend she‘ll understand, and wants whatever makes you happy!
Post # 4
“That’s really sweet of you and I appreciate the thought but Las Vegas isn’t really my thing and I’d rather not.”
Post # 5
I would just tell her, but then offer an alternative. “I don’t really feel like Las Vegas is really ‘me’, what about renting an air bnb cabin for the weekend instead?”
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
As someone who has suffered through 2 bachelorette parties she didn’t want, so not do this. Be frank, be firm or end up at a dance club after dinner.
Post # 7
Might as well tell her that you’re not really the Vegas type person, so if she’s set on that party she might want to ask someone who is more in tune with that speed of event. If you’d be happy to plan the party, but would be more comfortable planning a different sort, tell her what you would be happy and honored to do. You never know, she might be flexible. I think the bottom line is to make it clear that you’re really pleased she asked but you’re just not a good “hire” for this specific party as you’d be in way over your head. Kind of like asking a vegetarian what kind of steak of serve – just the wrong fit.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
My fiend offered to throw me a bachelorette party and I just politely declined. I just said I wasn’t interested in having a bachelorette party but appreciated the offer.
Post # 9
Just let her know you truly appreciate it but something more low key would be preferred. I live in Las Vegas and would also hate a traditional Vegas bachelorette party.
Post # 10
If she’s your good friend, be honest with her. Tell her thank you so much for the thought and sentiment but no.
Post # 11
I’d do what a lot of the other people on here suggest. Just an appreciation for the offer, but explain you’d prefer not to. By the way, I asked exactly this question a few months ago and most of the people called me immature…
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
Do not be afraid to tell them what you want to do. My bridal party knew the party scene is not my thing so they asked me what I wanted to do. I told them and they took my suggestions. I think it is even better that you do something different than the typical Vegas.
Even suggesting something you want to do should be enough for them to want to do it because it is for you, after all.
Good luck. Have fun.