(Closed) Friend who will not be invited

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Is there a reason in particular she’s not invited?

Just keep it vague, something like “Yes, we’re having a small family wedding in August.” Words like “small” and “family” usually tip people off.

Post # 5
4335 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

She’s not necessarily asking because she expects to be invited…maybe she is also planning an event and doesn’t want to conflict cuz she knows she will be inviting some of the same people you are?

And what KatyElle said.

Post # 6
3277 posts
Sugar bee

She may also just think of you fondly and be genuinely excited for you, with no expectation of being invited.

I ask people on FB all the time what’s going on with xxxxx activity, not because I am fishing for an invite.

Post # 7
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


When people who are not invited ask me, I give them a vague answer, like “In the Fall” or “Late September”. When they ask about my reception I say “On a military base”


Post # 8
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

When someone who wasn’t invited to my wedding asked when it was I would say “In June”. If they persisted for more details, I would say “It’s going to be a small event in mid-June”. 100% of the time they got the hint right away or after my second comment. It’s a polite way of answering their question, but making it clear they aren’t invited.

You shouldn’t feel obligated to explain yourself to her unless she really should be invited to the wedding. But it doesn’t sound like that’s the case and honestly no one should ever assume they are invited.

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