(Closed) Friend with recurrent miscarriages- how can I be supportive?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Be yourself and listen.

Did she get check for the mthfr gene mutation?

It is one of the leading causes of miscarriages and no one really knows it.

I have it, and the doctor put me on a special kind of folic acid (because you body doesn’t process it properly ,which causes miscarriages). I know someone else has that mutation who got pregnant after she found out.

Post # 4
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Just be willing to listen and follow her lead. Sometimes a pity party is called for and sometimes you have to go out and dance barefoot in the rain. Be willing to cry with her and laugh with her. Having a supportive friend is such a blessing especially at a time like this.

Post # 5
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@guitargirl: Girls weekend. I had 2 amazing friends who stopped everything to be with me. The cried with me, they took me to get pedicures, we had tons of desserts and way too much wine. They pulled me out of my normal environment and distracted me when I needed it the most. Sorry if this post seems a little nuts. Writing this made me emotional. They are the best friends a girl could ever have.

Post # 6
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I asked my friend what she needed – that I could just be there to listen, or I could be there to distract, or I could share information that I’d found about possible causes (CNN had a story recently on how for certain miscarriage risks, aspirin – I think – can help reduce the odds). And went with what she asked for.

Post # 7
5572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I second what mwitter said. A girls weekend where you just know that your best friends are there for you is so helpful.

My other piece of advice would be don’t forget. I know it seems like a no brainer but it seems like some of the friends I’ve told just forget. It’s really on my mind almost all the time but for other people they don’t really think about it after a week. So just be sensitive to the fact that for a long time she’s probably going to think about it ever day, not just one sad week. Try to continue to just be supportive and there in any way that you can, especially around the time when her due date would’ve been.

Post # 8
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My friend gave me a little angel ornament for my tree after I lost my son. It is very precious to me.

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