Post # 17
I do not think your friend is being rude. The first few months after having a baby is rough and with it being winter no way in hell (went through this myself last year) would want a baby around a lot of people RSV is very dangerous for babies. And being around lots of people who want to kiss and hold the baby is just plain not advisable.
My child was born 7 weeks early, we had to have a shot for RSV each month that insurace did pay for but each shot was $1000.00 to prevent RSV. If we did go out he stayed in his car seat covered up so no prying eyes could see or touch him.
Post # 18
I think it’s maybe rude IF she asked specifically to have the shower after the birth so she COULD bring the baby, and now chooses not to. However, in saying that, i’m sure she is just feeling protective over her LO and isn’t ready to expose her to everything that is around right now.
A very good friend of mine is still in hospital with her son, who was born 3 weeks early and did get RSV. He was a very, very sick little boy, admitted to the pediatric intensive care unit at the best childrens hospital in our city. He is still there recovering but has a long road ahead of him with what may not be a full recovery. They were admitted Christmas day and are still there with him.
With this season being nutorious for cold and flu, and how severe it is hitting certain areas, I think she is just being responsible and wants to limit her exposure.
If she’s really not into it, is there a possibility you can call it off/postpone? I am sure people would be understanding if you just explained that she’s not up for it. It is frustrating (as someone who has planned many-a-shower for people who don’t appear to be appreciative) but maybe just asking the question to her she’ll realize that everyone just cares for her and you’re trying to be a great friend.
Post # 19
I think it is rude if she asked you to wait until after the baby is born and now doesn’t want one, but I think she has a valid reason for not bringing her baby if it has to do with all those people holding and touching her baby. There are a lot of people sick with the flu and colds right now. It just isn’t healthy.
I would talk to your friend and ask her if she really wants a baby shower. If she doesn’t, then call it off. If she does still want one, but is truthful and says its just not a good time, then put it off and get in contact with all the guests. They should understand.