(Closed) Friendor doesn’t want to be paid!! -Help

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2889 posts
Sugar bee

What if you got her a gas gift card. Maybe something like $500 so it covers her gas and she has a few hundred leftover (assuming she is not driving across the country for you). You could even not tell her whats on the card and she will get a surprise at the pump if she is really refusing a payment.

Post # 4
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

From how you desribe you are kind of doing her a favor if she needs to build her portfolio, how about you write her a nice reference, or find out if she needs any equipment that you can upgrade or buy for her. I think gas money is fine, and don’t force any cash on her.

Post # 5
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I paid my friend photographer $500 for our engagement, bridal and wedding photos. She was trying to build her portfolio as well.


Post # 6
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think if she really doesn’t want to be paid, it’s reasonable to offer a gas card.

With starting photographers, I think the BEST pay you can offer is word of mouth. Maybe you don’t pay her in cash, but if she does a great job, you can recommend her to anyone who will listen. That is as good as gold. Also, the right to use your photographs for her own promotional purposes is nice too.

Post # 7
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I LOVE the gas gift card idea – either that, or a restaurant gift card.  That way it won’t seem like you’re paying at all, and its something nice that she can do herself and bring her SO or another friend.

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