- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Our wedding was November 3rd and let me start by saying it was the most amazing and incredible day. Everything turned out so wonderfully and best of all I married my best friend.
Early in the planning process, a good friend of DH’s offered to shoot the wedding for us as a wedding gift. I was a little apprehensive but Darling Husband was very excited and photog had been the second shooter for a very prominent Boston photographer for 12 weddings over the course of two years. So we agreed to have him be our official wedding photographer. We spent a lot of time thinking about how the day would go (me worrying over whether this was the right decision). Ultimately, we wanted pictures of both of us getting ready so we decided to let photog bring a second shooter who happened to be another friend. This friend did not have any wedding experience but Photog was confident he would be fine. Though photog said it would be a gift we paid for all the rental equipment and two nights of hotel stay for both (and two very nice gifts). We did not sign a contract. This was the one area that I was just unsure how to handle. Many people suggested I should get something in writing but Darling Husband did not feel comfortable asking this of Photog.
Leading up to the wedding we met with photog and second shooter once to go over the game plan. I talked about family pics (DH’s parents are divorced and this was a touchy subject), our first look, where we were getting ready, and all details I wanted to make sure were captured. We agreed that the majority of bridal party pic would be done prior to the wedding and second shooter would handle cocktail hour pics while we were taking family pics post wedding.
So now to the good stuff, the wedding. The BEST thing about hiring a friendor is they are your friend. I can’t imagine posing for pics with something that I was uncomfortable being around. We had fun, I trusted photog completely, we worked well together and got all the pics I wanted of me and Darling Husband. He also knew everyone in the bridal party and most of the wedding guests. This made everything super easy. At the end of the night some guests who didn’t know he was a friend said how nice it was that the photog really go into the mix and stayed the entire night to take pics. Last night we met with photog to pic out approx 250 photos from the 4800 he took for our first round of edits (I should have them ready by tomorrow) and let me say they are INCREDIBLE. He really captured us and they just look so good!
Now to the bad- second shooter friendor was inexperienced. As a result, he didn’t remember that he should have been shooting the venue space when it was all set up and all my DIY details. He did not shoot these and now I am left with NO, that’s right, NO pictures of any of the details I spent months working on. Photog got a few table pics in the foreground of other photos but I am sooooo incredibly sad. And the worst part is that I have no recourse. We didn’t sign a contract, we didn’t pay them, and they are our friends. I’m lucky that our DOC was there early and took pics (not great quality) of all my details. So at least I have those. But my dreams of being featured in one of the many wedding blogs I visit have been shattered.
So here is what I learned. If your friend is a professional hire them as your photographer. Pay them and sign a contract. Make sure you put in writing all the things you are expecting from these photos and all the small things you want to make sure are captured. Because a friend can take amazing photos- they know you and the more comfortable you are the better the pics will turn out!