(Closed) “Friendors” – do they get a STD and invite?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should "friendors" get a STD/Invite?
    no, they are providing a service : (0 votes)
    only if they are volunteering (providing service for free) : (3 votes)
    17 %
    yes, all friendors should get a STD and an invite : (14 votes)
    78 %
    other opinion- please post in comments : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1359 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Eek, not sure. I would. We had a family friend do our cake and a friend of mine did the flowers – they both got invites. However, our venue gave us vendor pricing on their meals (16 instead of 26).

    Post # 4
    Member
    3254 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I definitely would as a nice gesture. You traditionally send invites to your wedding party, too, so I don’t know why you wouldn’t to “friendors.” lol I wasn’t sure what you meant by that term at first!

    Post # 5
    Member
    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My photog was a friendor – she’s a close friend of the family. We sent her an invite and otherwise treated her like any other guest. (And we did pay her, although she worked for peanuts, compared to what most charge.)

    Post # 6
    Member
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would say only if they would have been invited to the wedding as a guest.

    Post # 7
    Member
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Honestly, I would. Sometimes friendors get overlooked, and I think it’s not quite right to treat them just as your regukar vendors, especially if they’re giving you a discount or volunteering. 

    Post # 9
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    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    This is how I see it. If you’d invite them to your wedding regardless if they were providing you services or not, they get an invite. If they are going to be there solely for working the wedding and they wouldn’t have normally been invited, except they have a service they can offer, then no invite. But even then – what’s a few more invites really going to cost in the long run? A few bucks? They’ll probably appreciate it more than it’ll cost you to make them 🙂

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