Post # 1
My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding and on a budget. He says he knows people to take photos, bake the cake, and DJ. I am quite hesitant because I know how unreliable my Fiance can be at times. I’ve met some of FI’s friends and they are unreliable too (ex – RSVP to weddings and then just don’t show up, plan golf outtings and don’t show up. Just no call/no show). I have never met these people who would be helping out with our wedding (we would pay them) so I don’t want to put them in that category too. I told Fiance I’m going to draw up contracts for them to read and sign. Has anyone else used friendors and how was your experience? I really couldn’t care about a cake but if the photographer and/or DJ didn’t show up, I would be livid.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
My sister had a friend who takes excellent photos (but only as a hobby) do her pictures, for free as a wedding gift. He took some nice ones of the ceremony, of family, and of bride+groom shots after the ceremony – but he pretty much stopped taking them after that. So they don’t really have any really nice ones of the reception, decor/scene, etc. A potential risk…
Post # 4
If you think they’re unreliable now, I wouldn’t book them for the wedding. The extra stress just wouldn’t be worth it to me!
Post # 5
@Miss Otter: Oh, I don’t know if these friends are. I was just saying, most of his friends that I have met are pretty unreliable. I hope I don’t have to lump these couple people in that category! I guess time will tell.
Post # 6
I would use a friendor for the cake and DJ, but never for photography.
Post # 7
I second what Miss Otter says: if you are having doubts….and especially since you are paying them….then go with someone you can trust (by looking at reviews online). Chances are, as the wedding gets closer, you are going to get stressed out (most of us do), and the last thing you want to do is knowingly bring another source of stress (i.e. unreliable friendors) into the picture!
Post # 9
I would never use a friend for photography unless they were a professional, but I want excellent photos and am not willing to settle for someone who isn’t as good. And even DJ and cake…I would never get one I didn’t trust completely. It’s not worth the hassle to me if something goes wrong.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
@SpicyThaiLove: I would be OK if this was their profession and I was getting a discount. But if it was free or it wasnt what they “do”, I would find someone else.
Post # 11
I used friendors for flowers and for my invitations. The flowers were a wedding gift and they turned out great (she’s a really close friend), but the invitations were a nightmare. She was not a super close friend to begin with, and we paid her (she gave a small discount)…but needless to say I have no problem with never seeing or talking to her again.