(Closed) Friends After the Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Did your friends change after your wedding?
    They didn't wait and changed BEFORE the wedding.... : (3 votes)
    16 %
    Definitely hung out less after the wedding but still there : (6 votes)
    32 %
    Still have my friends and everything intact hanging out wise : (8 votes)
    42 %
    Friends... what friends? : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1037 posts
    Bumble bee

    The only thing that changed about my friends was the fact that they all got married in quick succession after us.  I didn’t find any of them changed towards me persoanlly though. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    3773 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    Things didn’t change at all after our wedding. Granted all of our friends are out of scool and have jobs. We are more spread out now and had definately gone through the adjustment after college of not going out and partying every weekend. I think some people experience these changes when they get married closer to those times in their life when things are changing for everyone. 

    We are still the same people we were before the wedding and if anything had more time to do things since we didn’t have meetings with vendors and stuff. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have had a few friends who get married then droped off the face of the earth. With most friends after they get married they are busy and I respect that. I don’t want to be one of those couples who gets married then never sees or hangsout with my friends.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee

    Some definitely changed before the wedding. But I would say we did too. We don’t like going out an partying in the first place and many of our friends did, so once we were engaged, they didn’t pressure us as much to do the crazy party scene. I feel like some of my friends were really jealous of our engagement and resented us for a bit as well. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think if marriage coincides with other major life events, like graduating from school or moving away, things could change.  Also, if you are the only person in your group to have a serious relationship and did not cohabitate beforehand, things could change.  But that’s not a result of the marriage itself… a lot of people who get married in their early/mid 20s are going through life-changing things anyway… and friendships change a lot during this time.

    Nothing changed for us.  I think some people are scared that some magic switch will flip the day they get married and things will change with their family/friends, or with their relationship with their SO.  In my experience, and the experience of my married friends/family, getting married didn’t change anything.

    Having kids though, now that seems to be a different story 😉

    Post # 8
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    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    My friendships changed before the wedding. It wasn’t so much that some of my friends had changed, but that I had changed. By the time I met Mr. LK I was tired of the same old scene. I didn’t want to hang out at bars, do stupid stuff, and generally act a fool. It just wasn’t fun anymore. So when I met Mr. LK, who was also totally over the bar scene and the crap done in our early-mid 20s, I finally had someone else to hang out with who didn’t want to do those things. I was happy to make the change, but certain friends were not happy for me. So I parted ways with those friends, while maintaining my other friendships with other, more settled, friends. Those friendships have stayed the same since marriage.  

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