(Closed) Friends and family asking when is it gonna happen?!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I completely empathise with this! I get it a lot, and there are two people that do it more than most; MrWigeon’s uncle and the quizmaster at the pub quiz we attend lol.

I’ve got to the point where I generally just smile and say nothing now as I don’t know what to do or how else to respond! 

Post # 4
84 posts
Worker bee


My mom asks all the time “so when are you guys getting engaged?” I HAVE NO IDEA! not up to me! A couple Xmas’s ago we went to SO’s Aunts and his grandma sat down beside me and said “sowheres the ring?!”. SOs mom will make comments about it. And my friends – every bday or anniversary they’ll say “so did you get a ring?”. I try to keep myexcitement and hopes to myself but I’m not the only one I guess! 

Post # 5
27 posts

I feel you…

We’ve been together for a long time and many many ask me what’s going on with him and why we are not getting married…

I tell everybody that we are not really ready to get married – somewhat true, althouth I’ve been thinking I am ready for about from 9-10 months ago, financially/maturity wise. Also tell everyone that hey, getting married is not always the asnwer. Both need to feel they are ready and rushed decisions could lead to an unfavorable future!

Hang in there.



Post # 6
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve been with my SO for 4.5 years. He’s 28 I’m 27. All of our friends are engaged, married, or close to that and none of them have been together as long as we have. my mom has given up asking me about it bc she doesn’t know what his deal is. I’ve been asked by every single one of his friends what’s taking him so long (as if I’m the one to be asking!)…so I completely understand. It’s very frustrating to say the least. I told him, tell your friends not to bring it up to me anymore…I can’t handle it. 

Post # 7
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I know exactly how you feel. SO used to work at my current place of employment.  A couple years after he left I started working there. Everyone I work with was very excited when they found we were together.  Now that we have been together for a while (I am in late twenties hes in mid 30’s) everyone asks me (very often) when we are getting engaged. My mother constatntly asks “did you get your ring yet?” I just play it off and laugh, but it hurts.  Its like their reminding me that im still not good enough to marry yet.

Post # 8
72 posts
Worker bee

I’m 27 and my SO is 34… I’m like – come on, you are old enough… :/ I’m not upset that other people are married already and that’s why I want to get married… It just seems like the right step for us. I want to move on with the relationship… maybe we do not have the financial stability but my situation is so complex, I moved across the world for him. I’ve been here almost 2 years and I am still only a girlfiend, it’s just sad. My mom doesn’t believe SO willl marry me, it really hurts, because I find myself in doubt. I mean, he would as me eventually, but I don’t want to wait another year or two. I’m supersad today!

Post # 9
72 posts
Worker bee

@LoveWillLightTheWay:  I know how you feel, I feel exactly as I am not good enough. My mom will never ask me directly but she doesn’t believe SO wants to marry me.

Post # 10
72 posts
Worker bee

@Littleapple22:  Yeah, I agree. I hate when people ask ME, sometimes in front of my SO. How thoughtless!!!! I scream inside: “Why are you asking me, ask HIM!!!!!”… It hurts.


So what are the good responses you suggest (something witty to make the person who asks inappropriate question ashamed ;))

Post # 12
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014



Strangely no one ever asked me that :S (except I friend when I was complementing her e-ring).


Not his family nor mine and we are together for 7 years! Now that you mention it, it’s kind of odd that no one asked before.




Post # 13
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hi Girls,

First post, had to reply to this one!

We got this constantly.  We only got engaged recently, after 8 years together.  Around 5 years together, one day his mother asked us directly.  His family is catholic, 7 kids and he’s the only one not married.  So you can imagine the impatience…  Anyway, we decided a date, far far in advance at that stage, to tell her to just shut her up.  She was mega surprised to have a different response, and was flabbergasted.  After telling her this date, she never asked anymore, just mentioned the date sometimes and how she couldn’t wait for it.  Everyone else just gave up asking us.  My family went through the marriage then divorce of my brother after 1 year, so they just forgot. 

A few months ago he finally popped the question.  We’ll get married on the date we told his mum (2016!), because for various reasons it just works and feels right after all these years. 

Post # 14
76 posts
Worker bee

Omg I get this questions all the time. From friends, family, coworkers… everyone. We’ve been together 7+ years and I’ve been getting these questions for a few years. At first (like 3 years ago) I wasn’t ready to get married either so I was fine just saying we’re not ready. Now I just feel like screaming “well, I’M ready!” Lol, but he is finishing up school still so I  usually just tell people that and they back off a little.

Post # 15
1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

We’ve been questioned by some frieds, but I recently went back to school, so most of the questions have stopped. Work collegues have asked many times. His parents were together 7 years before getting married, so they aren’t rushin us. Although it’s almost been that long for us!

Post # 16
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We’ve been together for almost 3 years and I have been getting this constantly for I would say the last year. We both know we want to be together forever, but he doesn’t want to rush into a marriage as he has seen both of his older brothers get themselves into some not so good situations. It is annoying when people constantly ask but I’ve learned to deal.

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