Friends and/or loved ones

posted 7 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’ve never seen or heard that…

 

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I think that’s a pretty normal thing. I think what they mean here by “loved ones” is family. Personally, I was raised to believe that your family is the most important and you support them/can rely on your family without limitations. Friends are next and friends can be like family and have that same level of love and trust, but they’re still not family. But this completely depends on your upbringing and personal history/background! It’s still just as valid to consider your friends as your loved ones or even not to consider your family as such if you have a bad relationship there. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

 You have been obsessed with this issue FOREVER. Let it go. It doesn’t matter how much validation you might get from strangers, it will not change how his family views you. You are only hurting yourself with this unhealthy fixation. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I have loved ones who aren’t my “friend” though. I love my aunts and uncles..doesn’t make them my friend. I think you’re obsessing on semantics.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

Everyone sees this differently. To some people they are one in the same, to others they are not. There is no right or wrong way of looking at this. You do you and stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. 

ETA: No sass intended, I personally agree in that my close friends are my family and I have blood relatives that mean nothing to me and vice versa. But many people think blood > everything. I don’t understand it, but I don’t have to. I’m just gonna do me and let them do them. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

 You have at least six or seven threads about family relations and/or MILs. I think you have probably been told this a million times here, but it is fine however you want to view and do things. You also cannot change other people and their opinions. I think if you’re STILL stuck on this at least 7+ months later (perhaps more), you need better control of your anxiety.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

soexcited123 :  

But nobody, nobody here is saying  that blood trumps all. Maybe some old  fashioned/traditional people  or some  cultural groups think that way, but why  it should  obsess you so is past understanding.

Can you not simply accept that some people  feel  differently  than you? And that there is no actual need to ‘wrap your head around it ?   

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