posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 32
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

This is on them, unfortunately. Don’t be mad at then initially if they decide to keep it, but definitely don’t chance it since you had your date first. My definite friends that i know I’m inviting got the date immediately when we announced out eventengag (I know that’s not the norm; we did things out of offer). It stinks, but if it doesn’t work out, at least you have a wedding buddy to text! That’s pretty exciting!

Post # 33
1521 posts
Bumble bee

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dt2413 :  TBH them picking that specific date after you told them what date you all had settled on was bullshit. Out of allllllllll the days in a year, they chose that one? If they want to be petty about you group chatting your friends, they can go for it. They are the ones who look bad. Not you.

Post # 34
5103 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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dt2413 :  I’d say it wasn’t a mistake and they knew your date but decided they wanted a smaller wedding and picked the same date knowing that their friendship group would have to choose which wedding to attend and that would help to knock off x amount of guests they have to pay for. Instead of 20 friends attending maybe only 10 will attend because the rest are going to yours.

My reason for saying this was their motivation was because they said to you that

that all our friends are probably going to go to our wedding

I’d say she said that hoping that would happen and solve her wedding guest number issue. Just a thought….

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