(Closed) Friends asking about wedding party…what should i say?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If they bring it up, tell them that you haven’t decided on the bridal party, then start talking about something else (ask about their lives, people love talking about themselves!)

Post # 4
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would just be honest and say the bridal party has already been choosen-you want a small bridal party, etc. Have a plan to ask them to be a part in another way-as a reader or something.

Post # 5
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

There is nothing wrong in asking either A or B or C to be in your wedding party. You don’t have to invite all friends from the same friend-pool. In fact, many people choose one representative from each circle (a sister, a friend from childhood, a friend from college, a friend from your adult life, for example). If they do ask about the bridal party, just tell them what you decided to do. From the background you’ve given, I can’t imagine any of them would expect to be included, but they might be wondering, and knowing whether or not they are being included is the kind of information people want as soon as possible. Do they have to start budgeting for a dress, shoes, parties, etc. or not?

Post # 7
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I can give some perspective from the “snubbed” bridesmaid side.  My former college roommate recently got married and did not ask me, or our other roommate, to be bridesmaids.  It was a big of a shock at first because we were very close, still visited each other regularly, and had always discussed being each others bridesmaids.  In the end I got over it, was glad I didn’t have to buy a pricey bridesmaid dress, or travel out of state for the shower and other events.  I know the other former roomie was still bitter about it up until the wedding, but we all went, enjoyed ourselves, and everyone is still on friendly terms.

So trust me, they’ll get over it.

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