Friends do not seem happy

posted 2 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

Your friends sound like immature brats. 

To be fair I had a bit of an issue with my best friend/one of my bridesmaids when I got engaged too. She was going through a really tough breakup and we’d always gone through that kind of thing together. I think she struggled a lot with the fact that I was suddenly in this totally different life-phase than her and was really rude and distant about things at first. 

But after a month or two when she realized that our friendship wasn’t really going to change she came around and was totally supportive.

If they’re normally great friends and this is a specific thing bringing out their own insecurites I’d ask them about it and see how it is once they get used to the idea. But if this is a pattern of behaviour and they’re just competitive and jealous of your ‘status’ then I’d think about finding some new friends. 

You don’t need ‘friends’ in your life that compete with you and try to pull you down. 

Post # 32
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591 posts
Busy bee

Do not downplay your engagement! This is your and your fiancés time to celebrate, and letting others shit all over it is not necessary just because your girlfriends aren’t in the same situation as you.

You have been more than kind and humble to them about it and they’re still trying to ruin this time for you. Next time I’d call them out on it for being shitty unsupportive friends.

If anything, their bitchy behavior would have me tempted to wave my ring in their face and tell them they can shut up until they have one too. But I realize that is very petty lol 

If they still can’t get over it and be happy for you, I’d tell them they’re out of the bridal party and possible uninvited. Not kidding. 

Post # 34
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605 posts
Busy bee

classicbridalbliss :  I think a classy response next time they ask if you have the budget to decorate, is to assume they are complimenting the house and think you spent more on it than you actually did, and assure them it was a good price and that while you and your fiance have the budget to decorate, you are taking a minimalist approach/being very careful to decorate with meaningful items. Also, if this were earlier in the wedding planning process, I would have totally advocated using them for research purposes (eg. send them a bunch of color swatches, venues, etc., get their opinions, and aggregate). 

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