(Closed) Friend’s dog is dying of cancer. Ideas for comfort?

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I lost my kitten almost 2 years ago, and honestly the one thing I appreciated more than anything was the people who didn’t treat me like I was an idiot for greiving over him. 

Post # 4
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

It sounds small, but one of the sweetest gifts I received after one of my dogs died was an angel ornament featuring the breed of my dog. It was such a sweet reminder that my dog was at peace, but it also made me feel like she’d always be with me. She gets a special spot on the Christmas tree every year!

This isn’t the exact ornament, but it’s an example.

(photo credit:http://www.dogstuff.com)

If you know the breed, you can just google “Yellow Labrador angel ornament” (for whatever breed). When our second dog died, she was a mutt, so my mom got the ornament that looked the closest and then took a little paint to it to customize it. It looked surprisingly similar to our beloved pup!

Post # 5
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Gemstone: A friend also drew us a picture of our kitten, that was greatly appreciated as well. I think the ornament is a nice idea.

Post # 6
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@MissBoPeep: Aww! Yes, it’s amazing how the “small” things can make such a big difference when you’re going through that kind of loss.

Post # 8
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Don’t try to make it better. Understand the pain she is going through and just be her support while she grieves. If you can since she is alone, visit her and be a shoulder to cry on. Send cards to let her know you are thinking of her. And maybe give her some type of gift with the dog on it. I love the ornament idea and another thing I have seen are those throw blankets with the dog’s picture.

Post # 9
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My pets have always been important to me, but I can’t imagine how much more it would hurt if my dog were my primary companion.

@Grizz:  You’re so kind for doing this for your boss!

Post # 10
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Grizz: That’s how all the people I work with are.  It was miserable to be at work hours after he passed red and puffy from crying, and have my coworkers come up to me and ask what my problem is, because it was just a cat.  He wasn’t just a cat, he was a part of our family, and it honestly took a really long time not to feel like I was hurting. 

It was nice to have people I could talk to after work that didn’t shun me for bawling my eyes out, crying that my baby-kitty was gone too soon, that I would never be able to handle loving another cat, and so on. 

Roxy is spot on, don’t try to make it better, just be there to understand that she’s hurting, and it will mean a lot. 

Post # 13
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

When I lost my first dog thirteen years ago at the age of nine, my mom bought me a book titled ‘Dog Heaven’ by Cynthia Rylant. While the book alone obviously wasn’t enough to ease my pain entirely, I did feel that it helped a little. Just last week I dug it out again after having put my eleven year old Yellow Labrador Lucy to sleep – and once again, I was able to find some comfort through it. 

It is ‘techincally’ a children’s books, but I can attest now that it is fitting for adults as well. I found the bold and colorful illustrations and simple language coupled with the thought that my dog is happy and at peace to be extremely comforting. 

As others have said here though, what’s most important is simply being there for your friend. It seems to me like you’re already doing a great job of that though!

Post # 14
10 posts

I  might not  have any good ideas,  but i knew your boss would feel better if she could see your post! You are so kind to do this for your boss!!

Post # 15
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

 @Gemstone: The ornament idea is great.

@GoldfishPie: I was going to recommend something like that too. 🙂

@Grizz – You are sweet for thinking about her. I think mainly just being there will be helpful  – your physical presence, shoulder to cry on, & listening ear will be comforting, I’m sure.  

If you know the dog and are at all creative, you could write a poem or something – my uncle wrote a really bad but funny poem in my beagle’s honor when she passed away. It somehow helped.  Also, when I was 6 my hamster died and I was crushed… to this day I remember how touched I was when my friend Tony drew me a picture of my hamster, lol.

Alternately, you could print one of those rainbow bridge type poems for her.

ETA: I found the poem my uncle wrote for Sadie. I don’t think it has to be great, it’s really the thought that counts.

Ode to Sadie

Sadie was a sweet little beagle

But sometimes she acted more like a seagull,

swooping around, eating trash out of cans, and off the ground.

She had no fear,went after even the biggest deer.

She would come and go as she pleased,

and the only dog I know, who on command, could sneeze.
When she wanted out, she would stand by the door,

there’s more,

after coming in, she could shut the door.

She left peacefully in her sleep,

it will take time to get over,

a special dog, not named Rover

Fond memories there will be of a dog named Sadie,

the fun, silly, rowdy, scary, messy, but all dear,

You are missed,


Post # 16
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

A portrait . . . a double-window photo frame with a picture of the dog across the Rainbow Bridge poem? I don’t know. It’s just so hard. I know if my dog died I would be inconsolable.

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