Post # 17
@Legallyblondiebride: Yep. Lost most of my friends. We are still cordial to each other, but it’s just not the same. My best friend has a one year old daughter and lives with her fiance and she said the same thing and that sometimes with big life events, that’s when you know who your real friends are. She said that when she had her daughter, most of her friends disappeared and that’s when she wanted them around the most! I think it’s the same thing with weddings unfortunately 🙁
Post # 18
Omg! I can’t believe this common. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been BFFs for over 20 years. And she is acting the same way. Giving me the “I’m busy” BS. Honestly I feel like its jealousy. My wedding is in s couple of weeks and I couldn’t not have her there. Too much drama and too many questions. People think we are sisters. We’ve been practically joined at the hip for years. So I don’t understand why a wedding would change that. Oh well. Life goes on. I have people stepping up, planning, and actually caring about me during this most important and special time in my life. That’s all that matters. It is what it is. We don’t need friends like that anyway. I would never do that to my friend. I would be there….every step of the way. Loyalty! But thats just me…
Post # 19
I can speak up as a drifting friend. I was over the moon for a good friend to get engaged. I was part of the proposal & truly couldn’t be more excited for her. I love her fiancé (not like that!) and at 34, knew it was time.
Ever since the engagement, she has not once checked in about anything in my life. I had a big job interview about which she never inquired. I got the offer but she never once asked if I was taking the job. Not one single question. We have the same job (very small industry) and I guided her through the process of getting her job & talked to her daily about it. At the same time I’m stressing over the right career move, she’s texting me pics of her in her dress, emailing ideas about venues & colors. Since then, I have stopped reaching out to her & in some cases responding. I never thought it would be this way. The thing is I would LOVE to talk about her wedding & brainstorm & all that. But my feelings are hurt, so I’m just backing off. I don’t want to add stress so it’s best to let it go a bit.
I guess the point of this is to tell you why your girls could be pulling away. Make sure you talk about other things & check in with them about their lives.
Post # 20
I have checked in with them. Like I said in my previous posts, I never talk about my wedding with them. Ever. I don’t ask them to do anything, I don’t text them pictures or even tell them what is going on because they haven’t shown any interest at all.
Any time I do talk to them all they talk about is themselves, and if they bring up the wedding it is only to talk about how they will look in their dresses, etc.
I have always lent an ear to them and been there for them and throughout all their problems. I have always been excited for their accomplishments like new jobs, engagements, children, etc. I could see if I was constantly talking to them about my wedding, but I really never do.
I guess that is why I am so confused as to why they are pulling away.