(Closed) Friend’s girlfriend situation – awkward

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow that’s rough. I’m known for doing stuff like that all the time. I always remember the worst thing about people and then mention that fact in trying to figure out if it’s them. Insert foot into mouth.

However, if this guy is going to cut you out of his life, because some chick is embarassed that you know a certain fact about her than I would question his friendship anyways. I hate those people who will give up everyone for the bf/gf. You could always have the conversation as well and see if that’s what’s going on.

Post # 4
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow that’s rough. I’m known for doing stuff like that all the time. I always remember the worst thing about people and then mention that fact in trying to figure out if it’s them. Insert foot into mouth.

However, if this guy is going to cut you out of his life, because some chick is embarassed that you know a certain fact about her than I would question his friendship anyways. I hate those people who will give up everyone for the bf/gf. You could always have the conversation as well and see if that’s what’s going on.

Post # 5
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4824 posts
Honey bee

I think there are a couple of things you can do.

Since it seems to be serious have your  or you Fiance talk to S saying you think its time you all go out together to meet. Make sure to say something along the lines of “we can tell you really like her and would loev to do things with both of you”. 

I would also try just stopping be to drop something off as a house warming present at a time you think they both may be there like late afternoon on a Sunday?  A forced meeting that goes well may help alleviate the fears of the new Girlfriend.

If the above dont work then have a frank conversation telling him that you have no ill feelings towards his girlfriend, but if you all can’t meet and be friends, then your assumption is that he doesnt want to be friends and see what he has to say.

 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Have you tried having them both over to your place?  You could say the baby is welcome and have dinner or drinks or something….

 

Aside from the embarassment that’s probably the culprit here, some people just aren’t so good at reaching out and having people over to their place – maybe that’s them?

Post # 9
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are they close enough you could just “stop by” with some fresh baked goodies as a housewarming present?

 

Post # 10
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

this is pretty bizarre. i would treat S as you normally do and wait for his girlfriend to get over her embarrassment. don’t isolate S just because she’s acting strangeley.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well, the best thing to do in this situation is probably try to invite them over. Then once you meet her and she sees that you’re totally normal people she will feel more comfortable. But honestly in my opinion, what she did was so bad that she is forced to live with embarrassing situations like these. She should suck it up for the sake of her Boyfriend or Best Friend and face the music. If you two are mean to her about it or something, THEN they have a right to cut you out of their lives a bit, but right now she should do the right thing and man up.

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I don’t know what I would do, I may let him do his thing for awhile. Someone who leaves their child unattended in a vehicle for a few hours is.. I don’t have words- and I’m non judgemental about how other people raise their kids. It just sounds reckless,

S seriously dating her would change how I felt about him, which is unfortunate but the cold hard truth. I’d end up letting him decide whether or not to move the friendship forward. Yeah it sucks, but how is neglect (even if it is an honest mistake?) an attractive quality? What kind of person is that out of touch?

ETA:

With everything else you said, she sounds a little imbalanced.

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