- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my cousin who lives across the country. She had initially talked about doing a bridal shower several months ago and had asked me to put together a list of all the girls’ emails that I’d like to invite. I don’t have many female friends (I think there were maybe 8 girls I wanted to invite, all who live in-town).
However, due to a change in finances, she wasn’t sure if she was going to be able to come back home before the wedding and I OBVIOUSLY had no issue with it – after all, flying here for the wedding is enough of an expense. Unfortunately, her grandma on her dad’s side (our moms are sisters) is very ill so she is flying home next week to see her. Apparently, she also decided that she wanted to throw a little bridal shower while she’s here. My aunt first checked with my other two in-town bridesmaids that they’d be able to make it, and also checked with my mom to ensure that I was available (I was already supposed to have lunch with my parents that day anyway) and then proceeded to send out emails to the initial list that I provided my Maid/Matron of Honor for a bridal shower that will take place next week.
This was supposed to be a surprise for me but I just received four very angry text messages from friends that just received the invitation via email. They said that while the invitation was prefaced with some sort of message saying “We know we planned this super last minute, but we hope you’ll be able to join us if you’re available” they felt it was VERY inappropriate to be invited to an event with such little notice… I don’t understand why they’re MAD?!?!
I TOTALLY get that a week’s notice for a bridal shower particularly in the summer isn’t exactly ideal….but why would anyone be “mad” about it? The way I see it…I wasn’t going to have any sort of bridal shower….. a change in circumstances allowed my cousin to be able to throw one for me…albeit last minute…so whoever is able to come, can come. Even if it’s just my mom, my aunt, my cousin, my two bridesmaids and I, it will still be a nice evening.
I don’t even know how to answer these text messages. I could understand feeling slighted if they thought they were “b-listed” to the event, but the invitations were prefaced with a “We know we’re planning this super last minute” message so as not to cause any confusion.