- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
My fiancé and I have been dating for 5 ½ years. We have many friends, some close, some not. For the past 2 years we became close to a couple Maria and Pedro. We began hanging out because we shared common interests. This couple has a very close group of friends it consists of 2 other couples and for some reason one of those couples (the girl mostly- Sally) has always had something against me, she dislikes many people specially the friends my fiancé and I have had for many years outside of their group. Maria’s and Pedro’s “close friends” get involved every time there’s a disagreement between us. They decide to intrigue and make just every situation worse. My fiancé and Pedro had been ring shopping for 4 months. Pedro had planned on proposing a weekend of August and my fiancé just mentioned to him that he would do it when the time was right. My fiancé only told Pedro and his mother of his plans of proposing… Although each time Maria and Sally would see him and ask when he’s popping the question he would ignore. (they would also get a kick of telling me “hey by the way he’s not proposing during your trip, so don’t get exited” or “hey maybe he’ll want to get married once Pedro proposes to me”). Etc. My fiancé had wanted to propose for 2 months… on our anniversary he was going to take me sailing and it rained. After that, he booked a weekend at a resort and it rained again. After that my sister came in town for my brother’s wedding and we had no alone time together. I had a family tragedy happen and I was feeling very down about that and my sister going back home (I only see my sister once a year, she lives in South America). My fiancé asked for my mom’s permission to marry me. My fiancé wanted me to share this wonderful moment while my sister was still here. He did mentioned to my mother that he was scared he’s friend Pedro who had planned to propose a week after would be upset. And my mom said “if he’s your real friend he will understand and be nothing but happy for you”. My fiancé made the decision to propose to me because the time finally felt right for us, and after all the past bad luck he couldn’t think of a better moment. Well Pedro flipped, he told my fiancé he was being a bad friend, that he knew he was planning on proposing and that we “the girls” were going to be very upset. He told my fiancé the friendship was over and that if he went ahead with proposing to be aware of the consequences. Well the consequences were that he told everyone he was proposing. I lost the chance to break the news to any of my friends. Later I find out that Maria had told everyone too… which made no sense to me, turns out she already knew she was getting proposed to (Sally told her) she had even picked out the ring… (So Sally could tell Pedro what to get). While I had no idea of my fiance’s plans. They went out of their way to tell everyone that my fiancé was a horrible friend. And of course their close friends turned against us as well. They have all deleted us from FB (so mature) and continue discussing my private life with others and act as the victims in this situation. I don’t know how to handle this, my fiancé just recently lost his gp and I called Pedro so he would come see my fiancé and when he met up with us my fiancé had a break down, he didn’t want Pedro there. He couldn’t understand how a person can only be there when you’re at your worst and not be there in the happiest moments of your life. Maria told me we were in the wrong that Pedro had good intentions going to see him and that my fiancé should have never told him to leave and put all this guilt on us while my Fiancé was losing his Grandfather (he only told him: listen man it is just family here right now and I can’t deal with this too). What do I do about it all? Are we in the wrong?