(Closed) Friends of Friends

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Just wondering, how old is your FSIL? It’s absolutely appropriate to invite your boss. Are you extending the invitation to +1s of single guests? Maybe you can suggest that your Future Sister-In-Law can bring a date if she is worried about not knowing anyone there.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Your wedding is about YOU! You should not have to invite anyone you don’t know to please anyone else. I think eveyone gets torn between inviting people for their parents, friends, sibilings but at the end of the day these are people you are sharing an intimate, special day with and you want to be able to spend as much time as possible with your loved ones.

 We had a cell phone policy; they’re not in our cell phones, they’re not on our guest list.

Post # 5
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It’s not her wedding.

How old is she? This sounds like something a 16 year old would do. Maybe you should give her an option to bring a guest, which would allow her to bring a friend. But, she isn’t the one getting married. I would assume at her wedding you’re not going to bring YOUR BFF’s.

She’s being ridiculous. It sounds like your Fiance needs to talk to her and let her know why she’s not allowed to bring her friends that you don’t know.

BTW- Don’t give in. It’s your wedding. If you aren’t able to invite all of your family, she should be allowed to invite her BFFs.

Post # 7
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960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

OK, girl, you need to push her in front of a bus. 25 years old?!? And wants to bring her 6 "BFFs" to YOUR wedding?! Oh, lord. I feel for you, I really do. I’d suggest having an adult conversation about it with her, but I fear that she’s probably not mature enough for one.

 ps, I’m only kind of joking about the bus thing. 

Post # 9
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5822 posts
Bee Keeper

@Katgar17:  I’m officially adopting the cell phone rule!!  LOL

If you aren’t inviting your cousins, don’t feel bad about not inviting TOTAL strangers.  She is a brat!!  Forget about her.  She may brood about it, but you don’t even have to give it a second thought!

PS-It’s your FIs job to make sure she understands the reasons, not yours.  She definitely shouldn’t have even brought it up!!

Post # 10
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

My sister is inviting her BFF to my wedding but her BFF will be her +1. So maybe you can spin it that way.

Post # 12
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

How insane– how about thanking her graciously for planning and paying for your wedding… and then throw in since we’re having a bigger wedding now thanks to you maybe I will invite my friends too— And do it with a straight face….

Would she invite strangers to her house for dinner???

Post # 13
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

How about a compromise?  I remember how much fun weddings were when I was young and single… who doesn’t love a good wedding?  Maybe her friends could come later, like after dinner for dancing.  I can understand why you’d want to keep the ceremony and dinner intimate for close friends and family.  Most of my guests scattered after dinner… I would have welcomed a few more people on the dance floor! 

Post # 14
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2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Don’t give in.  It’s rude and inappropriate for her to ask you to invite her friends (who you don’t even know!).

When she has her wedding she’ll hopefully realize how rude it is and apologize for it.

Post # 15
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Don’t give in. What a brat! Even a compromise is ridiculous. Speak to your Future Mother-In-Law if she doesn’t give up. Man, some people! How obnoxious!

ps I LOVE that you referenced Ally McBeal! 

Post # 16
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Tell her to pick one, not six. That way it will be her problem now because she’ll have to choose on one of them. Remember it’s not a house party, it’s a freaking wedding!!!! What if you wanted to invite 6 of your BFF to her wedding. How would she feel?

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