Post # 1
I’m a waiting bee….hopefully not too much longer, but I wanted to whine for a minute about my married friends. I’m in my 30s, so many of my friends are engaged and married by now. I have crazy waiting days, nuff said. I admit I’ve had a few conversations and emails and texts with my lovely friends about “where’s my ring” and “when will he do it”, or “WTF?”, but I keep it to a minimum for everyone’s sake. Here’s my beef: My friends all say things to me like “Wow, you are really obsessed”, “Calm down” or “I just don’t have the time to think about things like that anymore”. and make me feel silly.
How quickly they forget! I seem to recall, each of my married friends went through a period of waiting craziness, and I listened to all of them whine and complain and cry. ITS MY TURN, DEAL WITH IT! And it doesn’t help that everytime I see you, you ask “So, when do you think he’s going to propose?”. If you don’t want to know or don’t have time, DON’T ASK ME BECAUSE YES I AM OBSESSED. 🙂
Just sayin’…go easy on me. I’m the last one left!
Post # 3
girl, I know just what you mean. lol
Post # 4
One of my best friends was waiting, like me, until recently, when her bf proposed at Easter. Before that we used to talk all the time about WHEN it would happen for both of us, and she used to get upset when other people went on about weddings and when she heard about other people getting engaged.
Now she’s engaged and OBSESSED with wedding plans, it’s all she talks about to me! I completely understand, and I am really excited for her and looking forward to being involved in her wedding, but a little part of me wonders whether she remembers all those conversations we had before…She knows I’m still waiting but I never, ever mention that to her now as I don’t want to say anything to make her feel bad or take the edge off her happiness. I’m not exactly annoyed at her, because I think that if you’re newly engaged then of course you ought to be able to express all that excitement. But it definitely feels like she has already forgotten how hard the waiting stage is. I suppose the positive side of all this is that hopefully, when it happens for us, then all these waiting frustrations will seem like a distant memory to us too. When I get to that stage I am definitely going to remember to be sensitive in my conversations with other waiting girls though.
Post # 5
Wow you are like my soul sister right now haha! I too am the LAST one and I swear talking about it gets me all kinds of riled up because well at almost 34 and having been together 4.5 years everyone (including me) is like WTF when is he going to get this show on the road! It really doesn’t help that I have 3 well meaning very dear friends that want to see us happily married like they are now and ask me ALL.THE.TIME but then don’t want to hear about it when they don’t feel like hearing about it. Then stop asking! I have been going through phases of being mad, being upset and lately almost throwing my hands up because i feel like its never going to happen. The worst part is that I know he bought something at the store we went to look at rings at because I accidently saw the credit card statement (he doesn’t know I know). I’m pretty sure he’d never spend a few G’s on earrings or a necklace so I know it’s the ring we picked out..but dude that was SEPTEMBER…forever ago 🙁
Post # 7
I feel you. I’m 31 (some 30something sisters here!Yah!) and most of mine are married. I constantly hear when is he going to do it, tell him to get on the ball, etc, but all their engagements were huge “surprises”and didn’t have to set a fire under him. Yeah right. I have a great memory!
Must be like childbirth when you “supposedly” forget the pain!LOL
Post # 8
I try not to talk about it with friends who aren’t in the same stage as me. The reality is we all forget this stage as we move along with our lives. I dont think your friends mean to upset you but everyones got their own stuff to worry about !
Post # 9
I’m 32 and my friends are already married with kids or nowhere near getting settled down. The marrieds don’t remember where I am in life and the singles don’t want to hear me talk about waiting….they say I should just be happy that I’m in a good relationship! and I am!!! But still!!! I am so glad I found this site because at least here I can talk about my feelings without boring or upsetting my friends :/
Post # 10
Glad I’m not the only one! I’m the only single one left, so I guess that just goes with the territory. I just want what I gave all my friends…support and an ear! 🙂 I’m glad I have the Bee though!