(Closed) Friends Over Family?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

There are times friends will be there when family won’t.  Go with friends!!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I did this myself… My extended family is really dysfunctional, but my friends were always there for me. So my 30-guest destination wedding reflected this. Remember that friends are the family you choose for yourself! 🙂 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Nobody is entitled to be present in your wedding, especially extended family. If you make guest list obviously strict (only immediate family and close friends) then you can easily stick to your guns and apologise for everyone who is rude enough to complain: “Sorry, we opted for really small event with very few people”. Cousins having big wedding are not at all an obligation for you to have the same (and your family has had enough big weddings to visit so far). Keep it private, don’t share wedding related information in social media, and go on with planning your happy day!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

my DH invited more friends than family to our wedding.

i did too, but i have a super small family and not everyone could make it anyway.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I have a large family as well, and it’s something I’m debating also. I get along with my cousins, but I don’t know their husbands and inviting them would be 30% of my half of the list. It’s hard to stomach, but I’m prioritizing my immediate family and close friends. I think people will be upset, but hopefully they’ll get over it. I prepared my mom and dad and they started getting the word out that I was having a small wedding and would be unable to invite everyone, so that’s been helpful. 

When is your wedding?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Enjoy your small intimate wedding.  Make it comfortable for you two & your closest loved ones & friends.  No one has time to be stressing over if Aunt Lou & Uncle Joe should be invited or not especially since they’re extended family & you probably can’t remember specding time with them outside of someone’s wedding.

Fiance & I both have large families & are planning for a 60 guest wedding. Some extended family will receive invitations because of our relationship with them–some living in TX, HI, & everywhere in-between. Some are even local, but aren’t close to us at all.  A lot of people may be butt hurt, but I think it’s understandable. It’d be like inviting strangers.

Do what’s best for you two. Invite your friends & immediate family then have a freakin party after the ceremony. You won’t regret it.

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