(Closed) Friend’s response to my ring..

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m sorry that’s awful! I don’t care if someone has the smallest ugliest ring (I am in no way saying that you do) you compliment them on it! She is your friend and should show support whether she personally likes your ring or not.

Post # 4
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1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

People will have all sorts of responses to your ring and you just have to let them. Hers was definitely a bummer, but if YOU like your ring, then that’s all that matters. Don’t feel bad about showing it off–I’m sure the next person will gush appropriately 🙂

For the record, my diamond is on the small side (.5 carats) and a lot of people look like they don’t know quite what to say because our culture is so obsessed with BIG–my ring has been called “cute,” “adorable,” “sweet” and so forth. But you know what? I like it and I’m the one wearing it.

Post # 5
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would also be a bit bothered, but putting myself in her position, maybe new events have happened since she heard about your propsal, and she kind of forgot to ak about all the details? I dont know…how long has it been since you were first engaged? It is rude that she didn’t ask you anything wedding related…doesn’t sound like a very good/close friend.

Post # 8
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

wow, that’s just rude. there are plenty of things that “aren’t me” but i still find a way to slap a smile on my face and speak nicely to people. i always tread lightly when it comes to talking about wedding stuff with other people as i understand that most people really don’t care about color palettes and centerpieces. but this girl asked to hear all about your proposal, plus there is a big difference between excitedly showing your engagement ring to a friend and spewing wedding talk non-stop. hopefully she just had a really bad day….one of those days where you just can’t be happy for other people.

Post # 9
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1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sorry she wasn’t more supportive, that isn’t right… I know what you mean, I’d be reluctant to invite her to the wedding after that too.  Could she be jealous at all or has anything happened in her life to make her react so badly?  It just seems odd since she was so happy for you, and now obviously is not showing that.  Even if you’re not a “ring person”, you could still show a little enthusiasm jeez.

Post # 10
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593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s one thing if she was being purposely condescending but some people are just awkward as hell. I have lukewarm reactions (at best) to seeing people’s babies for the first time. I can’t help it. I am chronically awkward and little kids freak me out.

Do you think it’s possible she just felt strange about it and slipped up with her tone?

Post # 11
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581 posts
Busy bee

Maybe she is jeolous?  It’s funny how people react to someone else’s joy.  Let it roll off and forget it. 

Post # 12
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@KatNYC2011: Weird, that she had such a switch of moods within a day! I would assume its jealousy…

 

By The Way, CONGRATULATIONS!!! 🙂

Post # 15
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690 posts
Busy bee

Is she generally a moody person?  Not that it’s any excuse for such a lousy response, but maybe she was PMS-ing and had a jealous moment?  I’d wait until your next interaction with her before writing her off completely.  Either way, you have a right to feel annoyed and you shouldn’t feel bad for showing off your ring!

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