- 4 years ago
Alright Bee’s, I’m going to ATTEMPT to make this as short as possible (but you know how successfull that usually is). My friend really needs insight and advice, but is finding more comfort in you Bee’s than her everyday friends, as she’s hesitant to bring it up to those individuals. A bit of back story.
Friend has been dating her S.O for a little over 4 years. They started dating at 21, and have lived with each other for 2 years. I must personally say that I’ve never seen such a ‘different’ couple (in terms of their hobbies, which really differ) work so wonderfully together. I and everyone around us can see how much they love each other, and how happy they are. She says they have their disagreements, like all other couples, but that she’s never been so sure about anything in her life. He’s planning to propose within the next 7 months (I’m in on it, she doesn’t know much).
So here’s the issue-her S.O recently started taking Adderrall about 3 times a week, while at work. He takes very small doses (small enough not to become addicted-once you exceed a dangerous dose, you can become addicted). He’s in a profession that is amazing, financhially, but very mentally straining and taxing. In college, she says will he managed to see average grades, he always struggled to focus on something (many things, actually). But she said it didn’t SEEM that different than everyone else. After he tried Adderall for the first time, he noticed how much more focused he becomes, how much work he gets done, and how much he enjoys his work and exceed expectations. At her request, he saw three different professionals to be tested for ADHD. One said, without hesitance, he had it. The other two were skepticle, and he’s just not sure. He shows some tendencies of it, but doesn’t, in other ways. He basically concluded that if he does, it’s very mild.
But he really feels like he focuses so much better with it, and gets more done. The average dose of Adderall someone with ADHD is prescribed is 20mg twice a day-he only allows himself 5mg twice a day, so as not to build a tolerance or become addicted (which has been proven to NOT happen, when taking that little).
Bee’s, she doesn’t know how to feel. She wonders if it’s wrong, but she feels like if it really helps him, how can it be wrong? They have very little issues in their relationship. She loves him deeply, but she’s wondering, would this be enough for most Bee’s to end it? Please give some insight, she’s confused.