(Closed) Friends S.O takes Adderall, and she's not sure how to feel?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What should she do about S.O taking Adderall?
    If it helps him, and helps him to produce good work and he's happy, than I'd accept it. : (55 votes)
    86 %
    No. He needs to stop, or else she'll break up with him. : (4 votes)
    6 %
    Depends on the strength of the relationship, and if there are any other problems. : (5 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee

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    yourhandinmine:  Well he apparently believes and trusts the first doctors opinion seeing as he got a prescription and is taking it.  And seeing as he has had a history of trouble focusing and was concerned enough (as was his GF) to go see a doctor about his focus issues then I am really not clear on what your friends concern is.  He got three opinions from doctors and from those three chose to listen to the first doctor.  The medicine is obviously helping him.  He isn’t abusing it.  So, again, not sure of what issue your friend has.

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
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    yourhandinmine:  Were all these doctors psychiatrists and/or neurologists who actually understand ADHD?  A lot of general practitioners really just don’t get it.  But pyschiatrists and neurologists have actual tests to assist in diagnosing it.  ADHD can manifest in many different ways – some people have hyperactivity, some don’t,, for example.  Some have impulse control issues, others are just inattentive.  The doc has to actually have detailed knowledge of it to really be able to diagnosis it consistently.  I would trust which ever docs fit that description.

    In my area there is a medical practice whose sole focus (no pun inteneded) is ADHD.  The tools they use to diagnose are extensive.  And their knowledge of it is comprehensive.   (And they don’t prescribe Adderrall, FWIW.)

    Post # 19
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    Honey bee

    From the OP:

    “After he tried Adderall for the first time, he noticed how much more focused he becomes, how much work he gets done, and how much he enjoys his work and exceed expectations. At her request, he saw three different professionals to be tested for ADHD. One said, without hesitance, he had it. The other two were skepticle, and he’s just not sure. He shows some tendencies of it, but doesn’t, in other ways. He basically concluded that if he does, it’s very mild.”

    So it sounds like he tried it BEFORE he had an RX for it. Am I reading that right? I understand he has one now, but when he first tried it, based off of your post, it sounds like he didn’t have an RX yet. 

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee
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    I still don’t understand why he saw three different doctors. If one doctor said he has ADHD, and two said he doesn’t, then what’s he doing about it? Just taking Adderall anyway? It sounds like he’s wary of the drug and is responsible at taking it, which is fine. Yet he needs to do something about this mixed diagnosis. At this point he probably needs a further referral to an experienced doctor who specialises in ADHD.

    As for your friend and his girlfriend, I don’t understand the issue. Is she really thinking about finishing it with him because he takes medication? That’s terrible. She needs to grow up if that’s the case.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
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    yourhandinmine:  also keep this in mind- yes it is over diagnosed in kids, but the DDA is also really cracking down on Drs over prescribing controlled substances. If he only has a mild case, the other two many not have wanted to take on the liability of prescribing it. I could be totally wrong, however. 

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee

    I’m not seeing the problem…. the adderall helps him, so he takes it. So? Adderall can be mildly addictive, as can something like sugar or caffeine….but an addiction to adderall won’t destroy your life like, say, heroine.  

    I really don’t even think it matters what the doctors say.  ADHD is one of those diagnoses that can be pretty subjective and completely depends on the doctor. 

    If it helps him, I don’t see what the issue is.  Unless he’s having some sort of adverse reaction thats interfering with his day to day life. 

    Post # 27
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    Honey bee

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    yourhandinmine:  See, I would want a couple more opinions. And not from a GD, but a physiatrist. Because as PPs have said, its often over prescribed. And the fact that he took it before he had an RX would make me iffy if I was the Girlfriend. I myself have struggled with addition in the past, so I wouldn’t like the fact that he tried a prescription drug, which was not prescribed to him. That’s the beginning of many addictions.

    Having said that, if he truly does have ADD, then ok. But if 2 of 3 doctors think he doesn’t, it just seems like he hasn’t gotten a really solid diagnosis yet. 

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    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
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    yourhandinmine:  it honestly amazes me, some Drs won’t even prescribe when it’s legit (I’ve had major surgery before and they sent me home with 30 ultram and Advil). And then you have other Drs over prescribing the hell out of things. I know one guy on tons of xantex, two different ADD meds, and who knows what else. Sometimes it seems like there is no happy medium. 

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