(Closed) Friends taking for granted/advantage (work related)

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow that is so crossing the line to use your name and your discount because his parents are impatient!  Before I even got to that part of the story, I was really thinking that he was taking advantage of you by having you ‘help’ him so much without getting any sort of payment.  That is your JOB!

Post # 5
Member
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow how awful! I would let him know that you recommend some other designer at your company to help him in the future. He doesn’t sound like a friend, he sounds like he’s just using your amazing talents.

Especially his parents using your name & company to get a discount that you never ok’d. I’d be very upset (& I’m easygoing) & tell him not to ever do that again. On FB chat, you can block people so certain people can’t see when you’re online ;).

Post # 7
Member
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

People are funny that way! They just don’t get how rude the sound when you’ve been so grateful.  Or how much they are putting you out.

My husband flies for Continental and we have people ask us for buddy passes all the time. It’s like they don’t even know his first name and will ask if we have extra passes.  This one time he gave a friend from highschool a couple of passes so her and her boyfriend could go somewhere.  Well they got stuck on a layover and couldn’t get back to work.  They called and complained to us like it was our fault or something.  My little vent about ungrateful people!

 

Post # 9
Member
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Can you send him a bill for your services thus far? You’ve spent way too much time helping him for free and now he’s clearly walking all over you. And for HIM to get mad at YOU because his parents were impatient is just despicable.

Post # 10
Member
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yeah, you need to kick this guy to the curb.  He’s totally abusing your friendship and taking advantage of you (and perhaps has a crush on you?  Who shows up at 9:00 p.m. at night to go look at paint with someone you’re not even really good friends with?).

I agree with @serabell – you should give him the name of someone else in your company to help him.  And stop respdoning to all his messages and texts – that’s just CREEPY and stalkerish.  Would he really behave like that with a professional that he’s NOT semi-friends with???  I certainly hope not.  Or if you still don’t mind helping him, let him know that you’re in the office from 9:00 to 5:00 and he can make an appointment, haha!

Sorry to hear this guy’s being a jerk to you and taking advantage of you.  Don’t let him use your discount anymore.

Post # 12
Member
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@bakerella- I agree the passes are for the employees.  We actually have to pay income taxes on the passes when they get used based on the price of the ticket. So we really don’t like to use them unless we are going somewhere.  We also had one time another friend of his ask to use a buddy pass to go home to visit family.  So he gave her one, then she asks if she can use his employee parking pass to park for free in the employee lot.  Of course he told her no because he needed the pass for parking when he goes to work.  So she then says, well I’ll come to your house leave me car at your house and ride with you to work.  Then Vintage can pick me up when I get back and take me to my car.  I didn’t even know the girl because husband and I had just started dating.  I was appalled that someone would ask for a free plane ticket and then ask for a free ride/parking spot.

I can’t believe he is bashing your wedding choices on FB.  I think this guy no longer is considered a friend.  I agree with ModernD that you should send him a bill.  He did offer to pay for your time at one point.

Post # 14
Member
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

yeah, definitely wean him off on someone else. he crossed some major lines there. and had the nerve to be upset with you! this is just all kinds of stupid.

but i understand, i used to work for a pro sports team and i rarely told people who i worked for because i knew the first thing they’d ask would be about getting free tickets. i had no problem helping folks out occasionally, but i only had a certain amount of tix available before i was taxed on them.

Post # 15
Member
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Go to your chat on the bottom of the screen, and expand it so you can see everyone who’s online. Under chat, click on “Friends List”. Create a name like “BFFS” & then drag everyone you want to talk to in that list. Everyone who’s name isn’t dragged is left in “other friends”. When you’re all done with the list, click on “Friends List” again, and it will have little checkmarks by all the lists you have that can see you online. If you don’t want a certain group to see you, click the checkmark so it goes away & then taht group won’t see you when you’re online.

I coulda sworn there was a way to block the person on chat individually, but if you make a list that may help “get rid of” any other chat-annoyances! 🙂

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