(Closed) Friends think they are entitled to being in bridal party and its causing drama!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t want that drama in my wedding.  I would just keep them on the invite list only, then if they don’t show you know how much that friendship really means to them.  People sometimes forget that the world does not revolve around them.  Sorry you are going through that, sucks for you both.

Post # 4
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

They probably feel like this is their only chance to stand in someone’s wedding. Ignore them. They will either get over themselves if they want an invite or they were never really his friends to begin with.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Seriously if they’re this much drama now, they’re not going to get better as the wedding approaches. If they have an issue with attending the wedding and not being in the bridal party, then tell them you will miss them.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Imean:  Some people feel (rightly or wrongly) that inclusion or lack of in the bridal party is a reflection of their relationship with the bride or groom, and are very hurt when the person they think of as one of their closest friends doesn’t appear to reciprocate. 

Post # 8
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Newbee

@Elvis: Good insight.

@Imean: I can see why the college male friend would want to be one of the groomsmen, even though it’s definitely NOT something he is entitled to.  That decision is entirely up to you and your Fiance, and he should be supportive either way.  The female friend, however…I don’t really understand why she’d expect to be in your wedding when you don’t even know the girl.  Generally speaking, the people who stand with you on your wedding day are supposed to be people who are very near and dear to you…influential men in the groom’s life and influential women in the bride’s life, usually family and best friends.  So her reaction is a bit puzzling.  Hopefully they are both able to calm down, understand that your Fiance still loves them, and realize that this day isn’t about them.  : 

 

 

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