Yeah, I agree with Penguin too. I don’t know why TTC is such a HUGE deal to some people. Yes, admittedly, if you have infertility issues, and I mean SERIOUS infertility, not just "Oh, we started trying 6 months ago and we had a miscarriage." Yes, miscarriages are sad. They hurt, and I am truly sorry for those who have suffered one and do not deny anyone the pain that they rightfully own over losing a child, even one so small. But really, you are not infertile at that point. Calm down, heal, try again. SO many first pregnancies end in miscarriage, you are in a sad majority.
Um, yeah, none of my friends are really TTC right now, except for one particular set because she has endometriosis and if she DOESN’T try now she could become infertile (sadly, they are now waiting till fall to try again after a miscarriage in April. I was so bummed, our babies were going to be a month apart). We weren’t TTC but did C (it’s a girl, btw, found out today. ), and we’ll be the first in my set of friends back home and the second/thirdish in our group of college friends.
Reading the thread again, I also agree with Plumeria, it DOES seem like some people try to plan babies like they plan weddings. I know some of the married Bees I follow on their personal blogs are kinda like that. No offense to them, but yeah… our bodies and their processes, modern medicine and all, are still so mysterious. Just relax and realize that it’s not ever going to be perfect or quite how you planned it.
Maybe what I say won’t be worth much to some of the self-diagnosed problem TTCers out there, since I have an oops baby, but oh well, my two cents.
ETA: Ok, I sound like a self-righteous you-know-what in this. Sorry everyone. My heart really does go out to those who have suffered loss or setbacks in their TTC adventures, both those I know and those I don’t. A family friend lost her twins at 22 weeks and we talked a lot about the balance between trying to be happy with those who are happy and sad with those who are sad… thankfully, she is able to overcome her bitterness to be happy that I am blessed, and I think of her loss with sadness every day. I would wish for this attitude for all TTCers and their friends.